SHOULD I SHARE MY VISION?

Good day and I hope you are having a great week. This week’s blog post takes up where the last 2 weeks have lead us.  I want to go into the discussion of what to do with your dreams and goals when it comes to sharing them with others.  There are many schools of thoughts when it comes to this point and you may get different views from different people, but I want to view this from The Law of Attraction (LOA) point of view and see where it goes.

In the masterpiece Think and Grow Rich  Napoleon Hills advised “tell the world what you are going to do, but show them first”.  That advices is very sound when you think about it. Many people, even the ones that love us, will naturally take the cautious road when it comes to big dreams.  People who have not accomplished great goals have a hard time supporting big dreams. They may come from a place of love and trying to be protective, but never the less when people’s vision is limited they can only be limited in their support.  From The Law of Attraction (LOA) stand point the lack of vision will only bring about more opportunities to affirm that they are correct in being careful, and if you are sharing your visions with them, their negativity will engulf you unless you are extremely determined and focus on what you want.  After all they have had all their lives to prove themselves that “it just will NOT work” right? You will attract opportunities to match what you are putting out. As Henry Ford said “weather you think you can or you think you can’t you are right”.  When you are going after something new and uncertain, the last thing you need is someone to tell you that it will not work.  . 

On the other side of the coins, is the fact that more people visualizing the same dream will exponentially increase the power of that manifestation.  We see this when people have mentors who believe and support them in their struggles, or when loved ones stand by us when everyone else had told us it can’t be done, and yet they succeed. There is magic in the belief of people who you care about. From the LOA stand point, more and more attention to our goals will  focus and strengthen the vibration and help the manifestation to happen quicker. Another proponent of sharing your visions is that when we sometimes stumble and are about to just call it quits, it helps to have someone who will not allow us that luxury.    Coaches and mentors know what it takes to succeed. They know how close we are to our dreams. They know that success is one step away when frequently everything goes haywire.  That is usually the time when we are closest to achieving all of our dreams but we are too close to the situation to see the silver linings. At those times it is so crucial to have someone who believes in what you are setting out to do. To share your dreams with you. To bring you back to reality that although things seem impossible right now, the sun will rise again tomorrow and it will be a better day. 

What is the answer then? Should we or should we not share our goals with people? The answer as usual in these situations is “it depends”.  I only advise sharing your dreams with people who are on the same vibration as you are when it concerns a goal or vision.  They have to be totally and completely on the same wave length as you. They have to know that negativity will only attract more negativity. They have to realize that even though they have your best interest at heart they need to offer constructive advice and not shoot you down. They also have to be honest with you when it comes to abilities. You don’t want to venture into something you have no idea about with a cheerleading section and go broke.  Proper action and planning are corner stones of success but that is not the scope of this particular post. We are talking about goals and plans that are well researched and hashed out.

If you think that sharing your vision with people is going to result in negative feedback, then only solicit advice from people who have done what you want to do.   Take their advice, do your own research, and then see if that vision is still what you really want?  Remember nothing has ever been achieved before being an idea first.  You can do whatever you dream. It may take time and effort and relentless fortitude, but if it is important enough for you to have a burning desire to achieve it, you can do it. As I like to sign my books, “you can be what you will to be”.

I hope this makes sense to you. I hope you can benefit from it. Share this post and this blog with anyone who may appreciate and take advantage of it. As always post your questions and comments on my Facebook Page or Twitter feed. Till next week, to your success. 

CAN’T GET A BREAK

Good day and  I hope you are having a great week.  Today I am exploring something that has happened  to me when I try to better myself and  rid myself of a bad  habit.  Maybe you have experienced this as well. 

The thing with bad habit and bad actions is that when you try to change them and act properly you  rarely get the benefit of the doubt from the people that have known you and have been accustomed to your bad behavior.  Let me put this  into context for you. For the longest time I have had to deal with my temper. I seem to have this anger inside of me that gets triggered at times and I have been working on changing that underlying issues for a while.  I try to act more calm and collected  most of the time, but there are times when I slip.  When I slip a little bit, not even a fraction of what my normal behavior would be,  I still get the reminder that “you are angry, or why are you so angry?”, or “you are losing it”.  This reaction of course then puts me into a defensive mode, and I get even more upset. 

Now how does this relate to The Law of Attraction (LOA)? Well we don’t need other people to make us feel bad or to not give us the benefit of the doubt.  Most of the time when we are trying to change a behavior, we are actually our own worst critic.  If you are new to the LOA, and by that I mean if you have not been practicing this for the last decade,  you need to cut yourself some slack. Because remember every time you  are upset with yourself, or make yourself feel bad for doing something wrong, you are actually attracting more opportunities to do that. So give yourself a break.  Praise and reward good actions but when occasionally you stumble, and you will stumble to different degrees, give yourself a break because you deserve it and you are on your way to changing your attitudes and beliefs and your future reality. 

You also need to treat people as challenges and practice tools.  I know you have heard this before and it is very difficult to ignore people in the heat of the moment, but you have to.  There is a saying that “you can’t please everyone all the time”.   That is true but when we are trying and someone thinks we need to hear criticism as though we don’t realize we goofed, it is kind of hard to ignore them. Believe me, I know how hard it is. I deal with it every day.  It is very hard to take personal criticism especially when you are trying to work on a behavior that you know is preventing you from succeeding.  Usually people are well meaning,  but that does not make it any easier to take.  So what you need to do is what Rhonda Byrne suggests in her book The Power.  Treat people like they are your personal trainers. They are put there to test to see how well you react to the negativity in your life.  Sometimes they are easy. Little things. Sometimes they will really test your patience.  It will take time to work this into your routine.  Do not beat yourself up if at first it does not work. It will take time. There is no rush on this. It is all for your development.  Take it one step at a time and treat everyone as a challenge. 

Take is as a game. To see if anyone can piss you off? If they can, you  get a minus point. If they cannot, you get a point. You can keep track of it, and at the end of the week if you have reached 10 points treat yourself to a reward.  Something small but something you enjoy. Go get a half an hour massage, or an ice-cream.  Something and will anchor the good behavior to a positive event.  Before you know it, you have learned to deal with people and bad situations and at the same time you have changed a bad habit or behavior.

I hope this is helpful, and as always I invite you to comment about this post or post your questions on my Facebook Page or TwitterFeed.  To your success till next week.  

DON’T GET ABUSED BY LIFE

Good day and I hope you are having a great week.  Today I want to make a comparison between abuse, weather physical or emotional and the abuse that most of us take from life.  It is just as sad to see someone take the abuse from life as it is when you see a victim of abuse.  It is even more unfortunate because with physical and emotional abuse you can at least try to intervene, but just like physical abuse it is up to the person who is being abused to want to change and take action to change their situation.   

If you understand the prototype or the makeup of an abuse victim sometimes you will be surprised.  The stereotype of a helpless, uneducated, and yes usually female victim is far from the reality.  Many abuse victims are not ignorant, uneducated, helpless women. Many victims in fact are highly educated and accomplished, but they are either afraid or more likely ashamed to admit that they backed themselves into a situation where they are being abused physically or mentally.  The fear is of what will people think not just the fear of violence. The fear is that of “how could I have made that mistake?”  Making this comparison with life, and getting a lesson from The Law of Attraction (LOA) is as follows:  All throughout our life we have been told certain myths that we have taken for granted as truth.  When you learn the information through The Law of attraction and laws of success, you now suddenly realize that for the bulk of your life you have been “doing something wrong” or “you’ve been fooled by Life”.  Now a few reactions will surface.  You get angry. You get ashamed.  You have regrets. You feel like you have been taken advantage of.  You feel like you have wasted your life. 

You can do a few things from here. You can be bitter and not do anything about your life to change the situation.  To continue to be a victim. Or you can like many abuse victims take responsibility for yourself and take action to take yourself out of the situation.  Within the scope of life it means that you have to stop doing the things that got you there.  You have to replace the beliefs that you thought were truth with positive and empowering new beliefs.  REMEMBER you CANNOT just eliminate a belief. You have to REPLACE IT.  The more you try to resist a belief, the more it will persist.  So don’t try to fight your old, negative beliefs. Replace them with something positive.  For example “money does not grow on trees”,  can become “money comes to me easily and with frequency”.  Repeat that to yourself. Prove it to yourself by little actions. When you find  a penny on the floor don’t ignore it. Pick it up.  You are building a new relationship with money.  You re building an accepting relationship with money.   Or one of my favorites, something that I believed for a long time : When it comes to success, “you can only succeed by hard work”.  How many hardworking people you know that have multiple jobs and are still struggling.  So hard work is not the only key.   You have to work smart. You  have to have the mental fortitude for success, which is what this blog is all about.  You have to see yourself with the END RESULT of your success.  You have to look for opportunities that present themselves and you have to take action on those opportunities, or learn from your mistakes if you miss them.  You have to persist on your actions but be open to alter course if one plan is not getting you to where you want to go.  You have to be open minded and change your plans and not your GOALS. 

Don’t let life abuse you.  Don’t let the myths and fallacies that one way or another you  have learned handicap you.  Know that you are the creator of your own future.  You are the creator of all your dreams.  As always if anything is unclear or you have comments leave me a post on my Facebook Page or send me a Tweet. Till next week to your unlimited success. 

HOW TO MOTIVATE!! MONEY IS NOT THE ANSWER PROVEN BY SCEINCE

Good day and I hope you are having a great week. In my class discussion in HR the ted talk bellow came up as part of the topic of employee motivation.  I found it fascinating and surprising and I am sure many of you will. To set it up, I want to correlate the findings of the talk to our theme of The Law of Attraction(LOA),  and Success.

I’m sure you have heard it said that if you do what you love the money will follow. That is not exactly the case. I have heard it modified that if you do what you love well and proficiently then the money will follow. From the stand point of success it is important to define how you quantify success? Is it the payoff? Is it the value? Is it the sense of satisfaction? Is it the impact you make?

When you are using Universal laws to achieve success, it is important to send out the vibrations that are in tune with what you want. You have heard me continuously mention how important gratitude is when it comes to making the LOA work for you and your success. In line with gratitude is the principle of value. In my earlier posts I mentioned to you the concept that many people understand well when it comes to exercise but for some reason completely ignore when it comes to finances.  That is the principle of giving before you get. Check out this blog post from August 13, 2010 http://www.successwithloa.blogspot.com/2010/08/give-in-order-to-receive.html

All this to let you know when you are going about to create your financial dream remember that you have to give value. Don’t make something because of what kind of financial rewards it brings you. You are going to produce or do a really poor job as the TED talk will reveal. Concentrate on the intrinsic rewards of doing what you do more than your compensation to be more creative. I hope you enjoy this video.  Leave me comments on my Facebook page or send me a Tweet here. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrkrvAUbU9Y

DON’T BLOW YOUR WOD!!!

Good day and I hope you are having a great week. Have you seen a great fighter totally broken? Do you know why most real fights are usually over within 1-2 minutes? It is more often than not, because of a lack of conditioning.  I won’t mention any names because I have mad respects for anyone that steps into a ring. Any ring.  But I am willing to bet the fighters themsleves would be the first to admit they did not do their conditioning work. 

Time and time again, great superstars are beaten by themselves when their opponent just is better conditioned.  It makes it easier to keep going in the face of adversity, when you are better conditioned and it breaks your opponent down.  It does not matter how awesome your techniques are. If you burn yourself out within 30 seconds (blow your wod) you are going to get you’re a$$ kicked.

How does this relate to The Law of Attraction (LOA)? If you read my post about "habits are good" http://www.successwithloa.blogspot.com/2015/05/habbits-are-good.html you have an idea of where I am going with it.  Even if you know the perfect step by step secrets of the Universe, if you have not conditioned yourself to use them, you probably are going to be disappointed in your results.  You can see I believe this is very important and I have tried to bring it to you in different ways. 

When it comes to conditioning for your LOA, it is more than just going over the mechanics of visualizing.  It is more about the foundations.  The core of manifesting your life the way you want to lies in feeling good, being grateful, and living in the now, as though you have it all. Working on the conditioning is being able to turn those three on in the face of challenges.  How do you do that? The same way a fighter  gets into shape.  It is doing the little things slowly and pushing your limits as you get better. 

An out of shape person will not go for road work (running) the first day, trying to run 5 miles if he has not walked around the block in ten years.  Trying to manifest a Porsche when you cannot afford a bike will frustrate you the same way.  Don’t get me wrong, I am NOT TELLING YOU NOT TO DREAM BIG.  I am trying to show you it takes baby steps and small successes, so you do not get beat up by adversity and stop doing the things that work.  Remember the tortes and the hair story? Practice being happy in small instances.  If you get pissed in traffic, put yourself in traffic with the intention of practicing feeling good or looking for the opportunities and silver lining. Standing in line at the store? Practice appreciation.  Someone hurts you? Practice forgiveness. 

Slowly increase the level of challenges.  If you stumble, put yourself in the situation again, and again until you conquer it.  This is your road work.  This is your mental and spiritual cardio work.   When you are in shape nothing will rock you.  Then your vibration will continue to tell the Universe to send you opportunities to continue to feel good.  The work will pay off  and before you know it you will be the champ.  You will have the life, relationships, peace and tranquility that you want.  This does not come by reading and learning new and different techniques.  It comes by putting in the time on the key foundational building blocks.  It comes by putting in the daily conditioning workouts and pushing the edge of your comfort zones when it becomes too easy. 

As always please share this blog with anyone who can benefit. If you have comments or questions please click on my Facebook Page or Twitter feed and leave me your comments. Until next week, with love, to your success.  

YOU DESERVE IT !!!

Good day and I hope you are having a great day. This week I have a video blog for your viewing pleasure to discuss the often times negative lables and phrases we use that I really holding us back.
I hope you will enjoy it. If you have any comments or questions please leave me feed back on my Facebook page or Twitter fee.

Have you seen the movie The Persuit of Happiness? You will see why I mention this when you watch the blog



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UPnPrcgmv5Y

ARE YOU FEELING GUILTY ABOUT YOUR SUCCESS OR YOUR DESIRES?

Good day and I hope your day is going well. Today’s blog post covers our feelings of guilt about success and achievements.  It just feels wrong right?  In today’s world you cannot go more than a few hours without being confronted by news of poverty, disasters, or famine in some part of the world. Many times when we are faced with this kind of information and news, we feel guilty.  We feel guilty and feel like we are not deserving,  or that we are greedy.  Those kind of internal and many times subconscious thoughts build resistances and stumbling blocks to our success.

If you are feeling guilty about your achievements, or your desires, then you are sabotaging the whole mechanism of manifesting the things that you want.  The thought process of  “After all, how dare you want to drive a Porsche, when the guy down the street is homeless, or doesn’t know where is his next meal is coming from?” is damaging to you and the person you are feeling guilty about.  You know by The Law of Attraction this type of thinking is only attracting more incidences for you to witness this, so you are not doing yourself or anyone else any favors by feeling guilty for having what you have.  

Once and for all,  I want to go ahead and put this myth, and guilt trip to rest.  Remember, The Law of Attraction (LOA) tells you that you can have everything that YOU want. No I take it back, it says you deserve to have everything that you desire.  It also states that you cannot want it for someone else.   That does not mean that you cannot visualize that someone else also has everything that they want.  In fact it is built into the system that you have to want all the good things that you want for others as well.  Remember there is no scarcity in this Universe for you.  Your job in this world,  and in this Universe is to achieve as much of your desires as you can possibly manifest.  Why? Because by your example, others will be able to realize that they also have this power. When people actually see a thing, it is easier for them to develop faith in the system… Take for example running the 4 minute mile.  A year after Roger Bannister broke that imaginary wall, college athletes were doing it.

This power is not reserved for exceptional few.  We as humans by the whole concept of having a free will and being able to control our thoughts have this power.  So the next time you see someone less fortunate than you, or a bad situation, try to check the feelings of guilt that may arise in you.  Be grateful for the things and blessings that you have, and imagine that person having all the blessings and more that they deserve in a perfect way. This is the best thing you can do for them.  Go about visualizing and manifesting your desires without guilt or shame because that is what the Source wants for you. 

I hope this makes sense and is clear to you.  Please leave me comments or questions on the Facebook page, or Twitter feed and share this with anyone who many benefit from it. Till next week, to your absolute and unending success.