YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN

Good day and I hope you are having a great week. This week I was hurt, by the fact that a close friend of mine seemed to not want to hear me out.  I was dealing with allot of challenges in my life and could have really used the listening ear, but it became very clear, really fast that I was on my own. Then I thought about it from The Law of Attraction (LOA) point of view and it all made sense.

Let me break it down for you.  You see, we are all on our own. It is not a reflection on our relationships and it is certainly not personal.  It is absolutely normal and if you see the contrary, someone is trying to go against the laws of nature and eventually that will back fire. What I mean by all this? It is something like this.  When we feel like we are overwhelmed by challenges, the social creatures that we are, we want to share the pain. You don’t have to be a LOA guru to not want to hear the crap.  It is completely opposite of what your guidance mechanism (that part of you that wants to fee good), and  how the Universal laws have programed you to react.  Some people, The LISTENERS, THE EMPATHIC PEOPLE, override their natural tendencies to say “deal with it dude” and will  listen, but left alone this is will have bad results. 

You see when you listen to people’s negativity you are coming down to their vibrational level, and you need to refuel yourself with positivity just to get back to neutral. Too much of negativity will have the effect of “burn out” because it takes allot of energy to overcome the negativity, specially if you are not used to dealing with it, or if you are in a place of higher vibration.  So in actuality I was doing my friend  a disservice trying to have him listen to my dilemma.  If it was a problem solving session and I needed advice we both could have approached the subject from a different point of view, but I just wanted to vent. That is not productive as you read in my last post. 

My friend actually did me a favor reminding me that I am on my own.  I need to get out of my self-pity and deal with the situations I was faced with. Yes they were not ideal. But I would be stronger for it, and in the end I am sure everything will work out the way it is supposed to work out for my best interest. 

I hope this makes sense and I hope it helps you think twice the next time you want to dump on someone close to you.  Leave me comments on my Facebook posts, and Twitterfeeds, and let me know how you feel about this post.  Till next week, to your success.  

WHAT IS NOT HAPPINESS?

Good day and  I hope you are having a great week. Many challenges popped up this week for me. As I mentioned before I am heading to the Middle East this week, and any type of preparation you would do for a long trip is doubly complicated when you travel to some parts of the world where we just don’t have the infrastructure that most people are used to when they travel. 

Anyway as I was dealing with the stuff, and listening to my wife’s positive reassurance, I started to contemplate a phrase I heard in a Buddhism 101 seminar.  Nichirin Daishonin a 2^nd century monk in Japan who popularized the sect of Buddhism named after him said and I am paraphrasing, “happiness is NOT the absence of pain or challenges.  Happiness is being able to deal with pain and challenges and still choosing to be Happy”. 

Recently I gave my 9 and 6 years olds my old iPods filled with their favorite songs.  I started to think about how I used to listen to music on my Walkman and how we were so impressed with the automatic switch of the tape from side A to side B and then with the advent of the CD and  how we could easily skip to different songs.  I wonder how the tech generation would deal with having to find a song on a Cassette Tape? Maybe I am not giving you enough credit? Would you be able to handle forwarding or rewinding through the entire cassette to find your song? Or would it turn your life upside down.  You may think I am being silly, but the stuff I see people complain about, and yes at times, the stuff that I now complain about is really not much more trivial than that. 

As my wife likes to remind me, complaining will just attract the crap I am complaining about into my life over and over. What can be gained by complaining and wasting energy, instead of actually dealing with the issue? Yes there are those times when I just have to accept the situation for the time being, because there may not be any obvious solution. But even then, there is little benefit that comes from complaining. I used to justify that it would make me feel better to vent, but really it was not at all helpful. I would just get worked up even more. Complaining does not lead to happiness.  Working on the solution is a step towards the right direction but even this should not be criteria for happiness. 

Happiness is independent of what my situation is.  Happiness is being alive in this time, in the now.  There is nothing more to be said.  Stuff happens that bring joy or pain but that is all part of being alive and YES, IT IS ALL A PART OF BEING HAPPY.   From The Law of Attraction (LOA) view point, when you are happy no matter what you are attracting more opportunities to be happy no matter what. That is going to strengthen your resolve, and life will, by default, be much, much better. 

Let me know how you feel about this statement on my Facebook, and Twitter feed.  I hope this makes sense and makes you think this week.  As always, to your success. 

IF IT DOES NOT WORK FOR YOU DON’T FOLLOW IT

Good day and I hope you are having a great week. This week I am diving into BELIEF, FAITH, whatever you call it, as it pertains to The Law of Attraction (LOA).  LOA is unlike most disciplines when it comes to the belief.  It’s critical that you believe that it will work for you, however, that comes with a solid caveat that if you don’t get results, you don’t really have to follow it. That is if you can honestly and truly say to yourself “I gave it my all and it failed”.

This is very rare. By definition FAITH refers to belief in that which cannot be seen. To my knowledge most religions, with perhaps the exception of Buddhism, take this definition of faith to heart.  Good thing then, that The Law of Attraction has nothing to do with religion.  LOA is an experimental discipline. Much like science, you get what you put into it in exact, tangible evidence.  That is why it is critical that you start with small things that you do not have emotional baggage attached to. Because the belief in the fact that you CAN manifest what you want, does very much hinge on you actually believing that you can manifest it.  It is not “I get,  then I believe”, it is believe then get. It seems like a catch 22 doesn’t it.  I can see you saying “A.J. which is it then? Do I believe blindly, or do I believe based on evidence?”  That is a fair and great question.

It is a little of both. Much like Nichirin Buddhism, LOA works on success to reinforce your belief.  So you work on visualizing and getting in tune with something small, like a parking space, or a free cup of coffee, and when that happens over and over, then you start to see the evidence which in turn strengthens your belief, which then allows you to take a leap to something bigger.  At that point, however your comfort zone has expanded, so that something bigger may be finding some small change on your way to work, or in your jean’s pocket after laundry.  Whereas before the parking space, you may have been uncertain that you could manifest some change, now that you have become comfortable with the parking space, you can see yourself manifesting some change.

You have to realize that very few people manifest a million dollars, or the relationship of their dreams right off the bat, by using the LOA.  You may think so because by the time you hear their stories, they have gone through and proven to THEMSELVES that they can manifest at that level, due to the time and practice and yes, BABY STEPS, that they have taken. But we as observers think it happened over night.  It is like seeing a great performer on a show like the old American Idol, or The Voice and you say “cool, how lucky they are to get a break”.  What we don’t see is the years, and years, of practice to perfect their art and be ready for the opportunity. As Oprah sais “luck  is where opportunity meets preparation”.  We rarely see the preparation of success. We only think, “oh if I just had the break, or if I was there at the right time, or …” If you are prepared, it does not matter where the opportunity comes, you will cease it, if you are not prepared, you will not even realize there was an opportunity”. 

I hope this makes sense to you and I urge you to challenge yourselves on building your belief in LOA, by practicing, and preparing yourself with small baby steps.  Leave me a comment or question on my Facebook page, or Twitter feed, and as always to your success.  

SIMPLE, SHORT, QUICK, EFFECTIVE…

Good morning and I hope you are having a great week. This week I have a very simple post for you. It is the most important lesson you will ever learn in using The Law of Attraction (LOA) IN YOUR LIFE.

I want you to do this now, and for the next 7 days. Every morning be thankful for what you have no matter what. Every time you feel like getting upset, envious, angry, hurt, taken advantage of,… whatever, give thanks that you are alive and for everything that is happening because you should KNOW THAT IT IS HAPPENING FOR YOUR BEST INTEREST. 

Then give someone you would not usually smile at a genuine smile… Don’t make this freaky though J

Let me know how this week works out for you on my Facebookpage and on my Twitter feed. Till next week, to your success.