Saturday, January 29, 2011


Good day,
I usually write my blog posts on Tuesday. But I just read John Carlton's blog specific inline with success and goal setting. I thought I would share the link.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. john carlton's blog about goal setting

Tuesday, January 25, 2011


Good day, today I am going to talk a little about our reactions to people who judge us and when we judge others.
Self-confidence is a funny thing. Most people who are truly self-confident do not have any need to prove it to you. So what happens to you when some one puts you down? I hope your honest answer is that “that is just a reflection of that person’s insecurities”. If that was not the answer that popped into your mind do not worry. It just gives me an opportunity to bring some useful information to you.
Every action that we take is the mirror of our needs and thoughts. So when some one puts you down it is a reflection of their issues and has nothing to do with you. But words hurt. We all know that. In fact words hurt more and longer than physical pain. But with the understanding of this principle slowly but surely you will start to see how when people show you love it is a reflection of their love and kindness internally and by the same token when people are mean to you it is just a indication of self misery that they have inside weather they know it or not. This is important because as you move up the ladder of success you will be criticized, and envied. Do not fret. Smile and know that is not about you.
By the same token when you judge someone it is an indication of some insecurity in you. When you see yourself as “better” than someone else there is also that knowledge that someone else is better than you. You get into the competition thing again. Try to STOP yourself when ever you get the feeling to judge someone.
Let me give you an example: The other day I was getting off the freeway and on the side of the road I saw a young man with a sign in his hand asking for money. For some reason as I looked at his shoes and noticed his age my judgment kicked in. I am sad to say that the first think that came to my mind was “why doesn’t he get a job”. It took me a good hour or so to realize what I had done. I have no idea what he is going through. I don’t know the circumstances that have put him on the street. What right do I have to judge him? At the same time that judgment threw me off of my positive track of thought. So in some respect I harmed myself in the process. Now I can totally choose not to give him any money or if I feel giving in the moment give him some of the change in my car, but I do not have the right to judge. It is purely a personal safety mechanism not to judge. It only hurts me. The guy on the street is not even aware that I judge him.
So keep yourself positive and when you find yourself judging STOP, and think positively about the situation or say a prayer for the person and move on. If you are the subject of being judged, smile to yourself in the knowing that it is not about you. You might want to also say a prayer or wish the person clarity in the future. Remember what ever you think about you bring about. Thinking good thoughts for others will bring the same to you.
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Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Definite purpose is the key to success

Good day. Today I want to dive into one of the simplest and most under utilized tools to success. In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill states that the first step to achieving your goals is to set a specific, clear and concise goal. What does that mean? In Laws of Success in 16 lessons, Napoleon Hill defines that as a DEFINITE CHIEF AIM. One of the most important actions one can take towards achieving success is to have a specific aim in life as to what he wants to do. Notice I used the word “WANTS” to do. This follows flawlessly with the Law of Attraction, because in using the Law of Attraction you visualize SPECIFICALLY what you want. When you have a focused and specific idea of what you want your life to be like, regardless of what that life looks like at this point, you set in motion your subconscious to start searching and be open to opportunities that will bring you closer and closer to that which you want.
The sad thing in life is that most people have given up on what they want.  They use words like ‘security’, ‘comfortable’, and ‘necessity’ to justify not dreaming. Most people, just like with the Law of Attraction, are going about achieving their definite chief aim by default based on what has happened to them up to this point. They may hate their job, or position in life, or the relationship they are in, but they have NO IDEA OF WHAT IT IS THAT THEY WOULD LIKE. Napoleon Hill points out that if you look into a crowd the person who walks with a focus and a definite destination flows easily through the crowd and it seems like the crowd just parts way. Where as people who are hesitating and have no idea of where they are going bump and bounce and move to the right and to the left while trying to maneuver the same path. Try it for yourself the next time you are in a crowd. Pick a point straight ahead and focus on getting to that point and just start walking with a purpose and see how the crowd moves away and the path opens.
The same is true with your life and anything you want in life. Once you are clear on what you want, you get that which you want. How do you get clear? Spend time and ask yourself what is it that you enjoy doing? What type of a person are you attracted to? Where do you want to live? How much money do you want to have come into your life on monthly bases? What type of a car do you want to drive? What kind of a home do you want to live it?
It helps to write these down, and look for picture where applicable to make a vision board, or if you are technically savvy make a digital vision board.  What ever creative method you use, make this fun and focus on it at least twice daily and feel the feeling of having, or living it NOW. If you have read my e-book Road Map to Life you have learned the 6 steps involved in setting and achieving any goal. Use those steps daily. Soon you will have the job, the car, the relationship, and THE LIFE THAT YOU WANT. Don’t worry about the how. The how will show itself to you as you take small action steps that occur to you once you get clear on what you want. It happens all the time, every time. It happens whether you believe it or not. If you don’t believe it will work it will give you what you want and that is the NOT WORKING. That is the Law of Attraction at work.
Best wishes for your success. Please feel free to share this with your friends and social networks.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011


The other day I was discussing positive mental attitude with a family member.  He happened to be in a difficult time in his life. He kept on telling me how this and that is wrong and difficult and I kept on trying to make him realize how much he has, to be grateful about.  He would argue “I am grateful but…” and get back to what was wrong and how he faces it every second of every day.   I felt like I was talking but he could not hear me like I was on mute.  On the drive home, as it always happens my wife was the voice of reason.  She pointed out that I was being hard on him.  I defended myself by saying “… that is because I love him and don’t know how to make him realize how great he could be and how he can get out of the rut he seems to be stuck in if only he could just try little by little to turn his thoughts around”.
Then today both of my kids had one of those days.  I was going insane dealing with my oldest wetting her clothes while my 4 weeks old could not seem to get enough food in her tummy no matter how much we fed her. I felt burned out to a point of negativity the likes of which I have not felt in a long time. My wife again turned the table for us and told me the exact things I was telling my family member the night before. I was open and tried my best to start slowly thinking of the things I am grateful about in this situation. It is very difficult, especially if you are alone to listen to someone telling you to be positive when you are not in a place where everything is going well for you. You just want to tell the person “#%&@!#$”. Even when you start realizing that you have to turn your feelings around you start cussing yourself internally because that is the last thing you want to hear at the moment. That is why it is so important to have support of a close like minded person who can recharge you. Give any Law of Attraction master a colicky baby for 5 days with broken sleep and lets see how optimistic they are.
The point is once the day ends and a new one begins, put the past away and start again. So what that yesterday I cold not be optimistic. Lets try again today. If today my gut keeps on saying “go %$^&!@#%” every time I try to be optimistic, that’s OK too. I will try again . I will keep on trying when ever I realize and when ever I have the energy. Little by little I go from frustration, to anger, to hope, to optimism, until suddenly I will start to feel better and once the feeling is there, the reality WILL FOLLOW.
Find someone to share the information in this blog with so you can keep each other positive during tough times. Everyone needs a helping hand at times. No one can do it by himself or herself all the time.  Let this blog be a source of positive thoughts and know that YOU CAN TURN THINGS AROUND.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011


Good morning, I hope the holidays are treating you well and you enjoy the company of friends and family.
This post is about working with our children from a young age to train them for success. As I mentioned in my book Road map to life it took me over 12 years after I had graduated from the University to learn the principles of success the hard way. Imagine the impact you can make in your children's life by starting them early in life. That was the focus behind the reason I wrote the e-book to begin with. I wanted to give the high school and beyond students a taste of what they could learn from my mistakes and set them on a path to success as I wished some one had taught those skills to me.
The easiest way to teach children is to make is playful. Games are great in teaching your kids to set goals. If they are of writing age you can work with them on writing and focusing on exactly what they like to have. This not only strengthens their writing skill but it forces their mind on being specific. The greatest tool to teaching your kids, however, remains YOUR actions.
When your children see you creating, and reading out loud your goals and making visions boards they will naturally imitate you. For the longest time now when I wake up in the morning, I go through a routine of thanking God for as many things I can think of. I also state "my intention for today is to be happy" and "my vibration is high". The I go through little mantras I have picked up from various books, like "every day in every way I am better and better", or "I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy".
The other day my 3 years old daughter was repeating the last two statements. Frequently she also asks me "baba, what is your intention today?" or "how is your vibration today?".
That always brings a smile to my face, and I enthusiastically answer her "to feel happy, and my vibration is high and great".  I also know that repeatedly saying she feels better and better and other affirmations will quickly pass to her subconscious at this age. Because unlike adults she does not doubt anything I say at this point in her life. I can positively influence her mind at this tender age much like Napoleon Hill did with his son who was born without ears.
If you don't have children you can use these concepts with any of the children in your family or volunteer to teach kids these concepts. I promise you the change you can make in just one child will bring you joy and satisfaction well worth the effort.
Plus I find it is much easier to teach kids than to try to change adults from their way of set thinking.
Wishing you a great week.
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