Tuesday, March 29, 2011
For about 4 years I have been working with LOA. In general, I have not had any problem making it work. I have used LOA to try to manifest a life filled with wealth happiness and success. There have been times however, contrary to what I have been taught, that I have tried to dictate how I want a certain success to come to me. That is a mistake allot of people make. Originally when I was introduced to LOA the recipe for manifesting something entailed visualizing, and concentrating and taking action when opportunities presented themselves. The how was never my responsibility. The how rests in the power of the universe. For example I wanted to purchase a particular material luxury. So I concentrated on a specific amount of money to come to me through various sources for various services I rendered, by a certain time. At the end of that time frame I wanted to purchase that specific material thing for myself with the money. As time went by and I did not get what I wanted I started wondering why? I knew it was not the Law of Attraction. The laws of universe are always working. For example I read in the MASTER KEY SYSTEM a great point: When a bridge falls down you do not blame the law of gravity. Some thing in the creation of the bridge was faulty, i.e. the operator had made a mistake not the universal law. When I went back and took inventory I noticed that everything that I actually wanted to have I already had. When I visualize in ideals, such as great career, great family and relationships, no hardship of money etc, they have happened. However when I specifically wanted to get the money though specific actions to purchase what I wanted the money came and went for other things. I realized that I was not putting my concentration on the final results, i.e. the material thing I wanted but on gaining the money to purchase it. In fact I was trying to tell the LOA exactly how I wanted to arrive at my destination. I was trying to force the issue through ways that may not have been the best for me.
Moral of the story is if you concentrate on the big picture of what you want in your life and leave the how to work itself out it is much more likely that you will manifest what you want in a more efficient and quicker way than if you try to force a particular path of achieving your goal. You do not know all the working of the universe, and hence you are working from a limited perspective. It is like trying to built a house by putting on the roof first because that is all you see you can achieve where as the Universe can start putting the foundation of the house and building up the house before the roof.I want you to learn from my mistake. Focus on the end result and not the how of that result. If you want a material thing focus on having and enjoying that and not the money to buy it. For the longest time I wanted someone to come and help my wife with our two kids during the day but the idea of getting such help seemed “too expensive”. Can you believe that? Well even though I had doubt the difficulties with our kids must have really focused my attention because my wife met a lady in the grocery store who offered her help and who happened to have a daughter a few years older than my daughter. See things just happen to work out. Now we have a new friend, my kids are learning Spanish and have a friend to play with at the same time. It still amazes me how things just work if I let them work.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Good day all. I just wanted to drop a post here and say that my book is finally going to the publisher through Xlibris. It will soon be available on amazon.com, xlibris.com, borders etc. not only in e-book format but in hard cover as well as paperback. Once that happens the pricing is no longer in my hands so if you still have not taken advantage of the offer on this page I would do it in the next 2-3 months. The free bonus pdf offer is only available for the next 2-3 months on this page.
Previously I had talked about a family member of mine who was in a negative mental state and I was trying to turn his concentration to positive by teaching him about the Law of Attraction, but he constantly went into how the financial situation he was in was bad and how he is facing it every day and it is hard, and it is tough and on and on. I felt like I was talking to a wall. Recently I was humbled because I was in a similar situation, where at least I understood how he felt and I wanted to share that with you and tell you how easy it is to come out of such a negative state of mind when everything around you screams negativity. It is easy to come out of it but it is not the way most people would think.
My daughter had recently had surgery on both eyes, so her sleep cycle was messed up. My newborn had a bad night. Both my wife and I were extremely tiered and I had just came back from a business trip and trying to give my wife a rest so she could go and get some fresh air and work out. I offered to take the kids for a few hours. During this time the kids were on their worst behavior. At least that was my perspective. In reality they were just being kids. I was about to pull the hair out of my head and if you have seen my picture you will notice I do not have any hair. It was one of those situations where I could not end the chaos. No matter what I tried I felt I was in a deep hole with no way out. That is what I want to bring into focus. When you are in a situation like that it is extremely difficult to turn it around. I have said this before that it is not about hitting home runs, but about hitting base hits but even that approach does not work sometimes when you are feeling total hopelessness around you. When you are faced with a situation where everything seemingly is going wrong you mental energy is so negative that just attempting to think of little positive steps is at times impossible. The best thing to do and the only way I was able to get out of my rut is to just end that day. Some how go to sleep, pray, what ever will make you comfortable. Just go to sleep and the next day try to start with little steps like “thank God my babies are both healthy”, or “ I am so happy and grateful that I have a roof over my head”, or “ I am so grateful that I have a car to drive to work instead of taking the bus”. For me it was the realization that there are some people who can not have children that would give anything to have the tireless night I had with my two youngsters. Eventually the night ended. The next day with a fresh mindset, even though I was tiered the day progressed getting better and better. I finally came to the realization that if you want to turn your mental attitude around to manifest a better future for yourself you cannot do it when you are in a negative frame of mind. No matter how hard you try, those emotional feelings are what gives power to our visualization as I have mentioned in my book Road Map to Life as well as this blog on how to use the Law of Attraction.
You need to be in a neutral state in terms of feelings at the very least, to have any success with manifesting your desires and be on your way to building your positive mind and your reality.
All it takes is that one night that you can go to sleep, and end the pain that happened all day long. Early the next morning try to as much as you can to come up with a fresh perspective. Take a walk outside, breath the fresh air. Look at the wonderful sun, the grass, the freedom you enjoy. Slowly look for things you can be thankful for, and be grateful for the things you have. With those tiny little step you take small progressions to feeling a little bit better and better and that will bring in more of the feelings for you to feel better, and very soon the negativity will neutralize and will move you to the positive.
I hope this will help you in times where everything seems lost. Keep the faith that the sun will rise tomorrow and with it there are new opportunities and new realities. You have a choice of how your tomorrow will look.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
In the last post we discussed what you need to do to start heading towards the work that will fulfill you and help you manifest your dream. As you start to feel good about what you are doing more and more opportunities will come your way to continue to help you feel appreciative and feel good about what you do. Step by step you will start to take action and take advantage of those opportunities. You will start to feel the success. You will start to make more money. You will start to feel more alive. You will start to associate with people who are more and more successful. That is where the most common temptation of the western society will present itself, and just like the Law of Attraction if you do not know what to look for you will be hurt by default. What is that temptation? It is LIVING BEYOND ONES MEANS. In this era of “credit”, few people have any idea about what they actually spend. The keeping up with the preverbal “Jones’” pulls the wool over our eyes. This is especially true with the young people who already feel that they are invincible and “have time” to build their wealth. In my book, Road Map to Life I did the calculation for how credit card debt can spiral out of hand and how a $25,000 debt over 5 credit cards can take up to 30 plus years to pay off. I also did an exercise to demonstrate how time is your best ally in building wealth. But in a nutshell let me just leave you with this sound, time tested, and ancient advice: “SAVE, AND MAKE YOUR SAVINGS WORK FOR YOU”.
If you have not done so I highly recommend you read the book The Richest Man in Babylon. In it you will learn the ‘secret’ to building wealth. I caution you though that the secret is not sexy, or awe inspiring, but it sure works if you use it. You are probably asking, “A.J. are you going to tell me the secret or do I have to go and buy the book?” Well I am going to tell you the secret but I also advise that you buy the book. You can check it out of any public library but it is one of the many books that are worth having and reading over and over.
The secret is this: No matter how much money you make right now, put at least 10% of it away and live on the remaining 90%. Then every 6 months or so take that 10% saving that has accumulated and listening to competent financial advice make it work for you in a safe and conservative investment and let the compounding begin. That’s it.
Very obvious right? But only about 2-3% of the population actually does save 10%. Is it any surprise that only 2-3% of the population controls about 90% of the wealth, something to think about? When I was told a long time ago that if it is not written down it is not a goal but a dream, I scoffed at it. But since I started writing down goals and seeing the positive results, I tend to look at things with more of an open mind. This formula that I have just shared with you works, and works well if you start using it now. It is not a home run or a lottery. But it is sound financial mindset and habit. The most common objection I hear is that “I am already barely scraping by, how do I live on 90% of what is already hard to live on?” That is a fair question, and the funny thing is that you will adjust so rapidly that you will barely even miss that 10%. It will be hard that first time. But it will get so much easier and with in a few months you will not even think about it.
Do it. Do it now and start on the path of financial success. Good luck and please feel free to share your comments and this blog with anyone who you think can benefit from it.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Good day. I hope you are having a great week. When you first read the title of this post what has your response? Did you take a deep dive into the answer or was it a gut response? Was the response positive or not so positive? Where I want to go with this is to fine tune our understanding of simple yet effective and proven method of achieving financial success and to also prove to you that no matter who you are and what current situation you are in, you can achieve it. The only requirement is that you have to want it more than what is comfortable right now so you will take action. So many people look at successful people and automatically become envious, or jealous or think that fate has looked favorably on them somehow. They think that it is so “easy for them, but not for me”. Others believe that financial success somehow will make them a bad person. As though if you are financially successful you cannot be a good person. It comes from the mentality that if you are successful then you must have screwed someone to get there. Well this blog is about success, and the Law of Attraction and therefore it is only going to approach the subject from a positive point of view and one that put the onus of responsibility on you. If you are ready read on. Even if you are not ready read on because this may be the wake up call you need. There is a reason why you are here reading this right now. It means that somewhere, somehow you are in tune with the vibration of success. That is a good thing and you should be grateful.
Let me ask you a question that I heard a mentor of mine ask me when I first started to engage in work that involved sales. I am talking about the grind of cold calling and selling life insurance and financial services. Here I was, mostly educated in the medical field, after 3 years of medical school due to some twist of faith working for a multilevel marketing company to pay the rent. I had no idea what to expect. All my life sales were looked at as second-class work. I don’t know how this perspective was developed in me, but it probably had to do with the fact that my parents were professionals with “employee” mindset. There were no real businessmen or entrepreneurs in my immediate family when I was growing up. The question was this: “if you knew that after making 50 calls per hour every day for a year some one would write you a check for $1,000,000 would you have a different attitude to making those calls? Would you feel differently about the rejections? Would you care if people told you it could not be done? Or ask you what are you doing?” He told me sales is something we do every day of our lives. But most people approach it with the fear of “what if they say no?” You should take the rejections as a great results because it makes you one more step closer to the check. Remember that you will be getting the check only if you make the calls. So the more “No”s you get the closer you are to the payday.
I am not telling you to go and be a sales rep, what I am telling you is that the way you look at what you are doing right now has a direct bearing on weather you will succeed or fail. No matter what you are doing right now that statement holds true. Even if you hate the work you do, have challenges at where you work, what ever is the case, step up to the plate and take responsibility for the fact that you are there because you have been thinking and concentrating on thoughts, and vibrations that have put you there. That’s right. It is you. Most likely you have no idea why or even that it has been the case. That is the ‘A HA’ moment when most people learn about the Law of Attraction. The good news is you can change all that and the first step starts with being grateful for all that you have right now and the second step involves thinking of your job the way a sales rep thinks about cold calling. You have to be excited about what you do and do it with all the passion and excellence you can muster. You may ask I don’t give a crap about my job. It just pays the bills why do I want to waste my energy on something I don’t like? The answer is because as long as you think like that you will continue to get the same crap that you have been getting. You have to change the level of your vibration and your thinking. Successful people do every thing they do to the best of their abilities regardless of what it is. They learn to like what they do and because of that opportunities and success will find them. I have heard it said that you should not be doing what you don’t like in the first place and that if you do what you love the money will come. Well sometimes that is not an option. For most of us what we went to school and studies because of our passions is not our field of employment. If you are doing what you love count your blessings. The good news however is that the reason you are not doing what you love is FEAR, and it can be overcome. For the most part we compromise our deep felt desires for the comfort zones of life because we think what we are seeing in the real world shapes our future instead of seeing the reality that our visions and dreams and thoughts are what shapes our reality. Albert Einstein said, “Reality is an illusion, albeit a persistent one”. Do you see the depth of that statement? We compromise because somewhere along the way we loose the ability to believe in our dreams. That is why success is elusive because success comes to those who as Susan Jeffers puts is “feel the fear and do it anyway”.
Getting back to what you are doing now. If you can start to feel good about what you are doing now, you will raise your vibration and reduce the resistance to the opportunities that will allow you to dream again and to actually live your dreams. Learn more about what you are doing. See the good you are accomplishing. Feel the pride of what you are doing. Don’t boast, but do feel the pride. You can feel pride in any thing that you do that does not break the laws of God or man. HEY worst-case scenario it will make the day go by faster and make you feel better about yourself. Thinking and acting this way is not only good for your finances but also for you health.
You have to try this and be persistence, and you will see results if you truly start to appreciate what you are doing. I promise you that. Do not sabotage your future by dismissing this. Do not mock it by giving it a half ass try. As you can tell this is a topic of passion for me. I have seen so many young people with so much potential that have not had the guidance to believe in their dreams.
It takes work but the funny thing about taking pride in your work is that when you feel the pride, the work does not seem difficult. You may even enjoy what you do. If you don’t you will soon be presented with opportunities to change. Be open to opportunities; keep your goals and dreams in the fore front of your attention and you will see the opportunities that were not obvious to you. Then take ACTION.This is the first step. In the next post I will show you how to ensure your success once you have found the pride and satisfaction in what you do.
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Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Good day all,
Today I wanted to touch on a subject about the Law of Attraction that I mistakenly saw as a challenge and wondered if any one else was having the same reaction.
About a month ago I made a business trip to Madison Wisconsin when we had that major storm. As a result of that storm my 2-day trip ended up being a 5-day trip. During this time my 2-month-old daughter was going through a bout of reflux and my wife had to deal with 2 kids, doctor visit, getting the drugs etc while I was out of town. I could hear the sense of frustration in my wife’s voice on the phone and what was killing me was the fact that I could do nothing about it. I kept on wondering what is it that I am attracting these “bad situations” at the time when I am out of town? Why do things go “wrong” exactly when I am out of town?
Finally when the airline notified me that I was able to get out from Milwaukee, I did a bit of soul searching on the drive from Madison to Milwaukee. What surprised me as I concentrated on the situation was the chain of events leading to this trip in week’s prior. My baby had been having feeding issues for a few weeks. Neither my wife nor I were getting any rest at night for the past few weeks. This business trip popped up on my radar a few weeks back and it was one I could not avoid. Most importantly when I was delayed many of my customers could not make it to their work so I had plenty of time to rest in the hotel and during the night. It seems crass but the more I thought about it the more I realized that Law of Attraction was actually bringing me what I needed and what was in my best interest. I needed the rest and circumstances gave that rest to me. I tried fighting it a bit but I also have realized that if I keep on fighting, I usually make a mess of things.
Now the stress on me when talking and thinking about my wife back at home was real but the point is that each of us can only control what is happening to us by our thoughts. I could not think good circumstances for my wife and I am sure the fact that 2 kids were giving her a hard time started a chain of downward spirals and the fact that she was tiered made things worse, no matter how positive of a person she is.
When I did get back home having been fully rested, I could give her the much-needed rest and we both started to crate a more calm and enjoyable feeding routine for our child.
Once you get into the groove of monitoring and controlling your thoughts the Law of Attraction will be looking out for your best interest sometimes without you even being aware of it. That is a cool thing. Sometimes you just need to go with it and trust that it is happening for your best interest.I hope you enjoyed this post. Feel free to share and comment by clicking on the links bellow.