TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

Good day everyone,
Occasionally when I am driving I happen to catch the news update on the radio station I happen to be listening to if I have forgotten my audio books etc. Recently I heard that some homeowners in Malibu or some place like that had complained to the city that the homeless population were defecating on their property. When the news crew went to interview the homeless man you have no idea what the response was. The man replied to the question of why they are vandalizing homeowners properties by defecating on their yard in this manner and I quote "well if they don't want me to use the bathroom on their property they should just get a porta-potty and put it in their yard. If they live here they can afford to rent a porta-potty". Now the news presented this as a comic relief in sorts, but I started thinking when did the situation get to a point of taking absolute no accountability for our actions.
This blog is about success and habits that will take us there. The most important and one of the pillars of success that many people and teachers preach is TAKING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for our actions. We all do things that will backfire. We all will and have made mistakes. I just made one the other day in dealing with a large banking institution. No matter how I may feel that I was wronged when it comes to the heart of the matter, the point was that I did not do my due diligence and did not read the fine print. I can sit here and moan and complain and play the victim, or I can just move on and chalk it to a lesson learned and hopefully never repeated that will serve me in the long run.
So after taking personal responsibility, learn from your mistake and move on. Once the action is done there is no benefit from going over and over the issue again and again. The only person that will harm is yourself. No one else will be hurt by you going over and over the problem or to blame yourself. I know this is a very hard thing to do. I have to constantly struggle with letting go. It is so easy to be a victim and to complain. But that only brings more things for us to complain because as we know from the Law of Attraction we get what we concentrate on the most.
So in summary take responsibility and then learn and move on to greater opportunities.
Have a great day and don't forget to comment with your thoughts. Thanks.

DO NOT SABOTAGE YOUR EFFORTS!!

Good day to you all,
I hope your week is going stupendously. I have been reading a book by Claude M. Bristol called The Magic of Believing.  It clarified something that I had read and heard before but really did not sink in till today. Sometimes in the past I have seen my goals and things I wanted to manifest take longer to come, or I hit some difficulties. Sort of like something was sabotaging my manifestations. At first I thought that it was not meant to happen and the Law of attraction was protecting me. I did not question it but at times it did seem a bit wired. Now I have a new explanation for some of those things. In this book there is a STRONG emphasis on keeping your goals and written statements of those goals to yourself. In the begging of this blog  I outlined the 6 steps I learned from the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, on how to set and achieve any goal you want in your life. If you are not familiar with it, I urge you to go back to the earlier posts and read it. I do recall in that book as well Napoleon Hills suggested keeping your goals to yourself until they are achieved. There was no explanation of the why however, and may be that is why it did not register with me.
 In the Magic of Believing the explanation is simple and it states "... thought vibrations, consciously or unconsciously, because of envy, or some other cause may be set up to counteract your own". (The Magic of Believing; C. Bristol p.89).  This morning it all made sense. Many times in my own life  I have shared a new goal or vision that I had set forth toward success or attainment of things,  with friends and family as well as, due to the excitement I have about the LOA,  I outlined the principles of how to set those goals in written form and review them daily. Many people instinctively feel obligated to tell me all the reasons that my plan was not going to succeed. Even today I sometimes find myself thinking that way when some one brings to me ideas that are outside of my comfort zone and I have to check myself before speaking so as not to step on their dreams. I don't think this is out of malice by any means.
Those who love us, have an innate sense of protectiveness towards us. The easiest way to protect one, is to not take risk. I believe that is where most negative criticism of relatives comes from, but never the less that energy is released and because of the high emotional attachment it has power.
Remember we all use the same ultimate energy and source. Negativity will slow down all your hard work and visualization so the best thing is unless you are confident that the person you share your plans with is in line with your goals, it is better to keep them to yourself and let your actions and success speak for itself.

I am curious to see if any one else has had experience with this? Please Click on the comment link bellow and share your experiences with us.

FREE E-BOOK ON GIVING AND RECEIVING

Good day every one. I hope you are having a blast of a weekend.
I just got this e-mail that Dr. Joe Vitale had sent out. He and a colleague of his Dr. Rick Barret have put together one of the most significant principles of attracting what ever you want to you and that is by giving. In my earlier posts and in my own e-book I have made references to this fantastic principle but here is the free e-book filled with wonderful information.
I hope you enjoy it.
www.givetolivebook.com

LESSONS FROM A 2 YEARS OLD

Good day all,
Today I want to share with you a lesson I learned from my baby girl. This is something she has done all her life but I just happened to notice it today while I was making lunch because I was in a mood of receiving what I was going to write on this blog next.
The lesson is about persistence. All her life my wife and I have been teaching our daughter to be positive and as much as we can about the how she controls her ,destiny through the Law of Attraction. What I have not related in this blog much is how much of what we manifest and bring about in our lives with our thoughts have to do with persistence.
My daughter saw a packet of crazy glue on the counter while I was preparing lunch. She pulled up her little stool so she was at eye level with it put her chin on her hands on the counter about 2 inches away from the packet of crazy glue and as I was chopping onions about a foot away she asked me "baba, what is this?" I told her it was "mommy's crazy glue". She said "can I have it?" I said "No". Well that was where the lesson started. For literally 15 minutes straight she did not stop asking "can I have it, haa? can I? Can I have it?". I was feeling specially young at heart today so I kept on the game of telling her "Nope, No, No you can't" as I continued with my cooking. After the 15 minutes she was in the same position and I could see the concentration and visualization in action. Now this may be just me, but that is what every one needs to do. Complete and utter concentration on what you want. Keep on going and do not take "NO" for an answer until you either get what you want or you realize that it is not in your best interest to have it.

Learning from a 2 years old little child that there is power in persistence reminds me of a well known fact that Thomas Edison had over 10,000 failed attempt at perfecting the light bulb.

I am great full to my daughter for bringing me this lesson. And yes she did get the packet of crazy glue to play with shortly there after.

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The Greatest Situation Reverser of all time

Good day all,
I just stumbled on this and had to put it up. In previous blogs I have made reference to having some "situation reverser" for the times when you are faced with challenges and need a sure fire way of starting to change the negative into positive vibrations.
I stumbled on this tonight when I was putting my baby to sleep and you can use it with your children or any one you feel deep feeling of love for.
Here is what happened.
I was putting my little girl to sleep and as she was just lying next to me with her bottle of milk I put my hand on her chest. I felt the quick beating of her heart. As I sat there a deep feeling of peace and gratitude came over me. I just left my hand on her heart and thanked God for the great day I had with her, and for the fact that she is happy and healthy.
I suggest you take a moment alone with the one you love. Get comfortable and calm. Put the hustle and bustle of the day behind you and put your hand on their heart until you can feel the lub-dub of their heart beat. Concentrate on the heart beat and internalize the great joy you feel for being with the one you love. Just treasure this moment in every way. What does it feel like. What sounds are around you. What is the temperature like. Are you closing your eyes or are looking at each other? All these in the greatest amount of detail you can will be burned into your mind and feel the joy and happiness and the peace it delivers to you.

The next time some thing throws you for a curve and you feel the loss of control and negative feelings approaching, go into the feelings of when you were with your loved one and re-live them in all the detail you can muster. See how little by little more and more of good thoughts come to you and keep on to those and feel good about those thoughts until you are out of the rut.

Good luck. I would love to hear about how this works for you. Click on the comment link and leave a comment if you like. Thanks

WHEN SUCCESS IS SLOW WHAT CAN YOU DO BY JACK CANFIELD

 Good day all.  I just received this article by Jack Canfield and it is great and with permission I am sharing it with you because I know we all have been there. Enjoy and Thanks Jack.

When Success is Slow, What Can You Do?
by Jack Canfield
Pop Quiz: Can success be sped up? Is there an antidote to slow outcomes despite arduous planning and actions taken? What's the secret for seeing huge results right now?!
I get versions of these questions frequently from people who feel frustrated at sluggish progress in their success journey - despite all the know-how and principles they rigorously employ.
Let's get one thing straight...
When we admire someone's success, or even our own, we often focus on the end result and not so much on the effort (and time) that it took to get there. This can cultivate unrealistic expectations, especially the idea that overnight success can happen through careful strategy and an execution of sound advice.
The truth be told, success typically follows a series of little events and achievements that can seem to take an eternity, that include a few disappointments along the way, and that challenge everything about you to the core - your stamina, courage, integrity, and even your willingness to keep going.
If you focus on what's not working, guess what: You're likely coming from a place of aggravation as your mind wraps around all that is wrong.
You may even have negative thoughts like "I'm not good enough," "It will never work," or "Something must be wrong with me."
What this mentally does is engender more of these counter-productive feelings. And given what we know about the Law of Attraction, you attract what you are feeling. So negative experiences, people, and results will beget more negative experience, people, and results. There's not much success in that.
The key is to focus on what IS working.
To do so, I recommend two simple practices: journaling and meditation.
Maintaining a journal (I call it an Evidence Log, Results Journal, or Gratitude Journal) is a great way to steer your attention to the positive and continually renew your vision for yourself.
Start each day with reflections on what you are grateful for in your life (list them out!) and end each day with notes on what went right (again, write them down), however small they may seem.
Spend time each day in quiet contemplation, prayer or meditation.
Meditation can be a powerful tool for arriving at solutions to problems and shifting your attitude so you can attract success sooner rather than later. The magic of meditation is its ability to essentially shut down the outer layer of your judgmental, highly-critical brain and allow your unconscious mind to take over. This is where you enter a deeper state of inner peace and joy, tapping into a higher level of creativity that will help usher in the results you want. (Don't know how to meditate? Lots of books and materials are available to guide you through this practice. It's easier than you think. )
Let's say you're doing ALL these things, but you still aren't happy with your results...
I'll ask you then, are you taking real ACTION?
You may be taking the actions you are used to taking. But if you keep doing what you've already done, then you'll keep getting what you've always gotten. It's a matter of practicing some new behaviors. Shake things up a bit and see if you can take new actions or modify existing ones.
Remember the Rule of 5.
Every day do five specific things that take you toward your goal. Change up the five actions regularly and be open to feedback so you know when you're off course.
Lastly, I want to remind you about patience.
It's natural to underestimate how long a certain goal can take, especially a profound one. When I set a goal to become a millionaire, the year was 1983. How long did it take? Eleven years. It took time for Chicken Soup for the Soul to hit the bestseller lists. You could say our tenure on the New York Times list was more than a decade in the making. That's a lot of patience for someone who initially wanted overnight success.
So, yes, patience is a virtue. But keep at it, and in no time, you'll be only one week, or one day away from your ultimate success.
Remember... be GRATEFUL, reflect on what IS working and continue to take ACTION!

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Are you "stuck" in this area?
For more on speeding up your success, I highly recommend picking up a copy of
The Success Principles 30-Day Journey Audio Course.

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REALITY CHECK

Good day all,
I hope you are having an awesome day.
From time to time I like to do a reality check on myself so I figured I share this on the blog. I like to call to mind what I choose to pay attention to in my surroundings:

• What am I listening to right now?
• What am I reading for pleasure or to pass the time?
• What am I watching on T.V.?
• What am I paying attention to in my daily commute or during the day? Is it the accident on the side of the road or is it  my child playing in the playground and being happy?

All these things influence my subconscious  to some extent. If I am aware of them then I control what shapes my reality.
There is nothing wrong with listening to your favorite music, watch news and T.V. shows, as long as you feed your mind at the very least the same amount of positive energy food. Remember positive thoughts are 1000 times more powerful than negative thoughts, like a match stick lit in a tunnel positive energy cuts through the darkness, but you have to light the match.

What are your thoughts on this? click on the comment link bellow and share.

CIRCLE OF FRIENDS

Good day all,
On the same thinking trend, I wanted to explore who you surround yourself with and the effect it has on you. Some one told me that you will be at the level of the 5 closest people you associate with. That is in most cases true but we do not pick our friends for their lifestyle or ours for that matter. The statement however does have merit. It means that you should choose to be around people you want to be like. If you want to be artistic be around artists. If you want to be wealthy associate with people who are wealthier than you are. If you want to be intelligent be around those who are more learned than you are. Napoleon Hill said that if you are the smartest person in your mastermind group there is a problem. You should always be thirsting for knowledge.

Just like in every thing else we find our comfort-zone in our associations. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable but to improve you have to step out of your comfort zone. To learn you have to associate with people who know more than you do. That is intimidating, and scary at times. The rewards are well worth it though.

By the same token if you are around people who are negative and complain all the time you will at some point get stuck in their negativity. I am not saying abandon your friends but you do have a choice and the responsibility to create your future. Remember what ever you concentrate on becomes your reality. I used to think that I could change my negative friends by unwavering positivity but I can not change any one who does not want to change and in the end I felt like I was drained. So I try to listen, and try to change the conversation to a silver lining but if it fails I WILL remove myself from the situation at least long enough to re-energize myself. You have to do the same. If you can not eliminate those who are negative in your life you need to limit your exposure to the negativity, and fill yourself with positive energy.

I welcome your comment and suggestions. As always please click on the comment link and share.

How to Deal with People that Upset you?

Good day all,
I read somewhere that you can not satisfy all the people all the time. So from time to time people will upset, disappoint, or just tick you off. The obvious and reactionary thing to do is to return the favor. When people upset us it is "natural" to reciprocate. Some times we get louder, sometimes we get upset and say something we regret later, sometimes we do things to hurt them back. We all know that is the wrong thing but we do it anyway, why? Because at the moment of great emotional stress we react and do not think.

It is really hard to stop and think when you are under the emotional stress of a moment. What I choose to do that has recently helped me allot is to just remember the one thing that "I am responsible for what is happening to me at this exact time".  One way or another by my past thoughts and emotional vibration I have given to those thought I have brought into my reality the current situation that is not making me feel good.

What comes next is the harder part of the equation, which has taken me a long time to do and still at times I fail to do it immediately, but eventually I figure it out. That is to start slowly to turn the situation around and focus on small steps towards a better vibration. Feeling a little bit better. Small steps are the key. I start by not going into an argument. If I can not do that I leave the situation. If I still can not do that I just refuse to engage the person for a while and just start to think about what a beautiful day it is. The fact that I saw my little girl this morning eating her breakfast cereal.
Because if I engage the subject matter it only gives force to those feeling and no matter how much I want to end the conflict I am CONCENTRATING ON THE CONFLICT AND NOT THE SOLUTION.
By concentrating on little good things I bring more of good things into my reality and the solution to my problem will come as well and I will be in a mindset to recognize and take advantage of utilizing the solution.

I am open to any suggestions you all have on this matter. Please click the link bellow and share how you deal with situations like this. Have a great day.

GREAT CHARITY CAUSE AND FREE E-BOOK

Good day all,
I just got an e-mail from Rich that he is giving away his free e-book "Magnetize your passion" and at the same time raising money for homeless children in America.
Please take a look at his site and contribute to this wonderful cause.

http://www.richgermantv.com/

ADVICE OR NOT!!!

Good morning,
Recently I was talking with someone about going after their dreams and when to take and not to take advice from friends and loved ones. The thing about people who love is that they are always trying to "PROTECT" you. One of the things I noticed is that every time I went for something outside of my comfort zone with the exception of my wife and my mother, everyone who I knew told me NOT to go for it and came up with all kinds of what if's and how so and so had tried it to no avail.
I honestly do not think it is out of malice, but as you know most people do not like going outside of their comfort zone and that is all they know. So when someone comes to them with situations that requires them to step out of their comfort zone the easy thing is to just say "that won't work".
I am not saying do not take advice, but please think carefully before you do. Going after your dreams are tough enough without having "nay Sayers" around. Take peoples advice. People who you respect but in the end gather all the information and make up YOUR OWN MIND. In the end you are responsible for your future.