Tuesday, October 27, 2015
BROKEN AS GOLD
Good day and I hope you are having a great week. Eckhart Tolle in his book The Power of Now states that if we were in Heaven, we would say after a while, this is great, but. This is something that makes us who we are. We are constantly looking for the next desire, and that is a great thing. It is not a bad thing. This is a bountiful Universe and we should be looking for our hearts content. What does this have to with brokenness?
There is a Japanese art called Kintsugi or Kintsukuroi that is the art of repairing broken ceramic and china by filling and sticking the pieces together with a resin which has gold dust in it. The moral of the story being that what is broken is actually more beautiful than the original. As we dare to go after our desires instead of sitting back, we risk being broken. We risk, to gain. We go beyond what is comfortable to gain new successes. We push our boundaries, to experience the new opportunities. This risk will come with stumbles, setbacks, and what many may call “failure”. In reality though has there been anything that we have achieved without failing and trying again? Imagine if you had stopped trying to walk because you fell down the first time you tried. Ridiculous right?
There is a great beauty and I would go as far as saying power to someone who perseveres in the face of setbacks and prevails. Many coaches will say “ you are not beaten until you quit”. Motivational speakers are fond of saying “you are the only one who can stop you”. These are not just tweetable quotes, although feel free to tweet them.
Do not hide behind your mistakes. Do not run from failure. Why do we let our failures and stumbles define our actions? It is called Shame. Shame is different from guilt. Guilt is an action that you did that was wrong. Shame is an identity; you believe there is something wrong with you. There could not be anything further from the truth. You recall Thomas Edison tried and failed 10,000 times to perfect the light bulb. Do you think he was ashamed after each try. Oh sure people were readily available to ridicule him, but imagine if he had stopped trying to invent his inventions.
Remember people are always ready to bring you down. It is not always from a place of malice, it can actually be from a place of love. Loved ones fear for your wounds. When you experience brokenness, it hurts those who love you as well and they want to protect you from experiencing scars. Or it maybe they have experienced some brokenness and have not persevered to overcome and have not reached their goals. Since this is a point of pain for them they “think” they can save you from experiencing the same results. Success is not something we can want for others. You have to want it. If you want it enough you will achieve it. If your desires change then you can move on. In either case the brokenness or scars have taught you a valuable lesson that more than likely you will use and benefit from in the future.