Tuesday, January 15, 2013
Good day and I wish you a great week. Today I wanted to discuss a topic I read not in a book about the LAW OF ATTRACTION but one by the authors of the best seller The Magic of Thinking Big Dr. David J. Schwartz called The Magic of Getting What You Want. This book was published in 1983. It is in essence a book about finding success in your life. That is a topic near and dear to my heart and this blog and the concepts I want to point out go hand in hand with last week’s post.
In the book Dr. Schwartz outlines the interviews he has had with many successful executives, head hunters, sales professionals, and retired military and law enforcement personnel about the effect of nurture on success. Without exception they all agree that the food you feed your brain in the form of information gathered from people around you and the media programs you choose to watch has an immense influence in your success or lack thereof.
I love the simplicity of how he puts it. The good=good; bad=bad law. In short if you concentrate on good things more good things are followed and the more you concentrate on bad things, no matter what your intention, more bad things follow. The intention does not matter. You have heard this from many of the Law of Attraction teachers, human rights pioneer Mother Teresa, and others: “war against crime, brings more crime; war against terrorism brings more terrorism, was against drugs brings more drugs”. What is interesting is that the down to earth explanation is that the attention and publicity to such events causes “copycat” actions that defeat the whole point of the original intention. There is an example in the book about a hotel with an open terrace in New York. When there was a suicide attempt at that location the media jumped on the story and the manager of the hotel told Dr. Schwartz that in weeks to follow the rate of suicide attempts on that location sky rocketed.
Isn’t it interesting how even before the concept of the Law of Attraction was main stream the results were evident. The intelligent students of the concept of success have always known innately that you need to concentrate on what you want to achieve it. Concentrating on gossip and negativity does nothing to further your pursuit of what you want. In fact it has the opposite effect. You are telling your mind to concentrate on what you don’t want. Why would you want to sabotage your own success?
The people who have succeeded and know what it takes to succeed eliminate those people who are as Dr. Schwartz labels them “one-on-one snipers”. That is a great term. Because negative people in your life KILL your chances for success. There is no gentle way of putting this. What he suggests is do not heed attention to these people if you have a choice. Remove yourself from their presence. If you do not have a choice do not add to their fuel by engaging in the conversation. Politely listen if you have no choice and do not add anything either pro or con to their conversation. Soon they will leave you alone and seek some other person who will feed their need for negativity. It is very difficult not to get caught up in the locker room mentality of “bitching and moaning about our troubles”. Resist this temptation.
The media is another source of constant negativity. Dr. Schwartz points out most of what the media “news” channels broadcast is vast exaggeration of the truth in order to gain ratings and sell magazines. Think about it for just a minute: if there is really a noteworthy news you ABSOLUTELY NEED TO KNOW someone will tell you about it very quickly unless you are living in a vacuum. In this age where information travels at the speed of light the chances that you will miss a noteworthy story are slim to none. So do not place yourself intentionally on the path of getting nonproductive information that does nothing to further your success.
I always hear “but A.J. I have to be informed to make a good decisions”. I disagree. Do your own due diligence and then make your decisions based on solid UN-exaggerated information. If you are talking about investments for example, by the time the information has reached the mainstream media it is too late anyway. What good will the news that “the economy is in the toilet do for you?” In this time and place like the time of great depression there are thousands upon thousands of successful people that are taking advantage of opportunities all around them and prospering. Resist the temptation to say “yeah but…”.
If you want to know what is going on truly in any field find the person who is succeeding in that field and ask them for their opinions on the subject. The people who are giving you the doom and gloom information are neither well informed nor even slightly competent on the news they are delivering to you. If they are they are trying to mislead you.
Law of Attraction and success principles that millions of people have used since the dawn of time always, without exception favor the person who either purposefully or accidentally does not know how to quit or listen to the nay Sayers. I have said this before, do you prefer to be in a company of a person that constantly complains for long? Even if you agree with their point of view today, there will come a time where you just feel drained by the constant negativity.
No one wants to do business or associate long with someone with a poor disposition. Your customers will not trust your skills, your friends will not want to associate with you, and in time even those close to you will get tired of trying to cheer you up. YOU CAN NOT SUCCEED BY BEING NEGATIVE. It is unprofessional to say the least. Take for example this note from Dr. Schwartz’s book: Imagine for example you are looking for a new position, and in the interview they ask you about your last job. If you bad mouth your previous employer do you honestly think you will get the job? Or imagine you are on a date with someone who asked you about your previous relationship and your rant about how bad your partner was, do you really think you have a chance with this new person for any meaningful relationships? The answer to both is NO.
People, opportunities, and success gravitate to people who can be positive in the face of adversity and break down the issues to their core factual ingredients and solve those issues one step at a time with a smile on their face. Become someone who can be positive no matter what and watch your success soar in any part of your life.
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As always to your success and until next week, have a great day.