Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Good day, I hope your week is going well. Today I want to explore the topic of sharing your dreams with loved ones and people you care about. There is a right way and a wrong way to do this. Do not take this lightly as it is a double edge sword that many people may not recognize and wonder why things are not manifesting in their lives the way they should? Let’s begin with a story.
There once was a boy who had dreams of grandeur. He wanted to be the master of his destiny by having multiple businesses and thousands of employees working for him. He wanted to have many homes in beautiful places. He wanted to have cars, and toys and be popular and in general enjoy the finer things in life. He wanted to have housekeepers and chefs that would clean up and maintain his homes, and make delicious and healthy food for him to eat. He wanted to have physical trainers that would help him be healthy and vigorous, and be the best he could be.
He told his family about his ambitions, while attending college. He told them how he would be starting his own businesses little by little, and become wealthy and take care of the whole family so they could really enjoy life and care for the things that really mattered. His family was very supportive and loving. They cared for his well-being. They loved him allot. They wanted the “best” for him. The elder, and “wiser” members of his family , seeing that this was not a temporary impulse started to talk to him about his dreams. They wanted him to be “REALISTIC”. They asked how he was going to build his businesses? He would usually answer that he had no idea but that the ideas would come. They would ask where was he going to get the money to start the business. He would answer that he would get a business loan. To which with a warm smile they would tell of their own experiences in attempting to get loans for cars, or homes and the fact that you “need” a good FICA score, and work experience, and an income. None of the elders were business owners. They were all well-educated and smart but non had actually created a business or ran one. This did not deter them from “PROTECTING HIM”. Things like debt to income ratios would be mentioned. The need for attorneys to make sure you are well protected from people who would want to sue him would be discussed. Hard work that is needed to run a starting business would be explained. “A business is not like a job after all”, they would warn.” If you are not working it, it is not making you any money.” “You have to be careful who you deal with you know?” they would say,” there are so many con men out there just waiting to take you for your worth”.
Some of the middle aged members of the family with really impressive titles and jobs would encourage him to get good grades in the good schools and become impressive employees like lawyers and doctors, and engineers and get a job with companies that pay you lots of money. “It is safe they would say.”” You will always have an income.” They would say health insurance is so expensive here, and the company would pay for you and your family. “What about the family. How will you take care of your family if the business does not make it?” “ Do you want to work for ever? You can put in 20-25 years and the company will have established a great retirement for you.” “Then you can enjoy your life. If then you want to start a business, go ahead. You have the experience necessary and the wisdom to be successful” they would say.
The young man at first would just be polite and not pay attention to such things. But year after year of hearing these things would eventually cause him to stop sharing his dreams with those he loved for the fear that they would come up with all the reasons he could not succeed. Eventually he stopped dreaming all together. When the dreaming stopped so did hope. He just went through his life doing what was just enough to get by and he lived a good happy life by “everyone’s” standards. BUT…
You can fill in the rest of the story for yourself. The point I am making is that you have to be very careful when you share your dreams, especially at the early stages of your dreams when you are excited and the dream is in its infancy. People who love you, naturally want to protect you from pain of failure. Unless the people you share your dreams are well aware of “how much and how bad it matters to you to reach your dreams, and are involved in that process”, they may out of love, CRUSH your dreams inadvertently. They do not mean any harm. They love you. That means nothing however, when the sparks of a desire are young. They can be muffled and put out very easily, and as it happens more and more, then you will stop dreaming and that is a very bad thing from the stand point of The Law of attraction. Take the wise words of Napoleon Hill to heart “show the world what you can achieve, but DO IT FIRST”.