Tuesday, June 5, 2012
IS THE HOW STOPPING YOUR SUCCESS?
Good day and I hope your week is going well. Today I am going to discuss one of the parts of using the Law of Attraction that has given me allot of trouble and which I really have to constantly be aware of so I do not sabotage my achievements. That is letting go of the “HOW?”
As a human being, and one that is very analytical, type A, and a go getter, this is the most difficult part of the whole process for me. Perhaps you can relate to my dilemma. I like to plan things and take actions along the lines of those plans. I do not like to sit back. In goal setting I have been taught and I teach action and planning. These are the reasons why I constantly butt heads with this portion of the process.
I am hoping in trying to dissect it and think it through logically I can share where I have gone wrong for you to benefit from as well as reinforce the learning in my own mind so I will not make the same errors over and over again.
In the process of utilizing the Law of Attraction to achieve goals, the “HOW?” is the work of the source. There is no way of getting around it. I have repeatedly tried to force this issue thinking I know what is best and every time I have forced the issue I have either delayed or completely sabotaged the results of my achievements. Can you see the frustration in this? On one hand I have to plan and take actions to realize my goals, but on the other hand, at first glance, it seems like I have to sit back and let thing happen. What da #$#%@#?
I don’t think I am alone in getting frustrated by this. If it is happening to me, it must be also causing frustration for other new or continuing students of the Law of Attraction. I have been searching for answers and I do not think anyone has actually addressed this portion of the process in detail that will make things clear to me. So I think I have found the way and I will explain it here for everyone including myself to make use of.
As beings on this earth, we share the energy and vibrations of the source and every other thing in this universe. As long as we are in this physical body however, we are limited in our awareness of the total vibrations and all the possibilities. Why? I don’t know. Maybe we are not to the point where we can handle that form of extreme understanding. Maybe it is not in our best interest to be able to harness that much power. Maybe we create resistance to it because we are innate know it all’s. No matter what the first step is to recognize and accept that we have a limited understanding of what is possible in relations to anything we are trying to achieve.
Because of that limitation, the solutions we come up with are also limited. Because of that, what we think is the best answer to “HOW” something should turn out in order to satisfy our goals is limited. Can I accept this? Yes. Can you?
If you answered yes, we can continue. If you answered no, then there is nothing to discuss because you are not at a point where we can discuss things on common understanding. I am not saying I am right and you are wrong. I am just saying that I cannot discuss the solution with you from my point of understanding, so either you have to teach me how you understand things to be, and perhaps your way is simpler and I can learn or this post is of no value to you.
Once we accept that our perception has limitations the fact that we should get out of the way and let things go about the way they are supposed to, becomes the next logical choice. BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN TAKE NO ACTION AND MAKE NO PLANS. This is the portion that disturbed and frustrated me, as well as the point of greatest mistakes.
The 6 steps of goal setting are valid and in line with the universal laws including the Law of Attraction. The way the concept of letting go of the “HOW” seamlessly merges with the mechanical process of planning and taking immediate action is that, once you focus on your desires, believe, and follow the process of making use of the Law of Attraction as described in the previous posts, you will get opportunities to take what many teachers call “inspired actions”. You will have intuitions to plan and set up action steps. You can do those things, and the KEY is to remain open and not get fixated. Sometimes you will take an action step to its fruition which is NEEDED TO COMPLETE THE GOAL, BUT MAY NOT BE THE FINAL STEP. In the shortsighted vision it may seem you have failed. That is not the case however. I have written in the blog posts on taking action(Post on Action ) that as you take actions other action steps open up and you are lead to the next steps. The temptation is that from our limited standpoint, we may think that was the last step and we should see the fruition of our goal, but the reality might be that we are not there yet. No matter what, things are occurring as they are supposed to and to our best interest.
Many times when I find a new source for selling my book, I get excited, pumped, and think that is the best way to do things, and many times nothing comes of it. I used to get disappointed. At times like this, I go back and see all the good techniques and things Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen learned by getting rejected 146 times by that many publishers when they first tried to publish the Chicken Soup for the Soul series of books. I can’t help to think that if they were successful the first time, they may have just rested on their Loral’s and not only not expanded the series, but would not have done any of the other facets of their business that has brought them tremendous revenue as well as having enriched the lives of their students and customers. There is definitely something to be said about learning by doing and failing and getting up and doing it again and again.
I hope this clarifies thing for you. Don’t get fixated on the how. Keep the vision on what you want as the ultimate manifestation of your goal. Don’t worry about the stuff in the middle. They will get done, and will come to you. When they occur to you, incorporate those ideas into your plans and take action. This is the best and easiest way of succeeding even though it may not look that way from our limited perspective.
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