KNOWING WHEN TO LET GO

Good day and I hope you are having a great week.  Today I want to concentrate on the part of the manifesting using The Law of Attraction (LOA)  that most people have trouble dealing with,  and that is the “HOW”? So I want to go ahead reiterate what many teachers preach : “The how is not your business”.  That does not mean that you sit on your butt and not do anything.  To me it is more like you do not force an issue. You are open to different ways of accomplishing the same task, even those that you may not have thought about. 

Let me give you an example.  I was trying to teach my oldest daughter how to swim.  After putting her in swimming class all last year and then not practicing all year long she seemed to have forgotten everything she had learned and went back to using her inflatable swimming aids. I started to teach her the way I was taught.  I held her by her stomach and had her do the paddling and kicking hoping she would get the momentum so I could let her go. Sort of like teaching her how to ride the bike.  Well that was not successful.  There was so much resistance. She would not kick properly.  She would keep on bending her knees and drop her hip and sink.  As this continued I felt myself get more and more frustrated.  So I just concentrated on the end results, which was wanting to have my daughter swim the length of the pool on her  own.  Then I let it go. 

When her friends came she asked if she could “just play”.  I said of course and let it go.  As she started to play with her friends who happened to know how to swim, she started to want to swim without her inflatable belt.  So she took them off and stayed in the shallow end.  As younger kids who knew how to swim came over to her and tried to help her and pull her around, she started to do it by herself more and more.  All this time I was sitting on the site of the pool and watching.  Finally after 2 days of this routine, she started to practice on her own.  All the things that I had told her and assumed were going into one ear and out the other like keep your knees straight, keep your hip up, reach and pull, were now the things that she started to repeat to me and then she started to set harder and harder goals for herself until she swam the length of the pool without putting her feet down. 

The point of  this story is you always want to concentrate on the end results that you want to achieve.  But being that we are all humans, we tend to want to do it our way. Especially if we are men.  That is the biggest stumble that people working with the LOA face.  It is this letting go that seems to be the key.  After all may things may not be in our  favor if we try to push our own methods. I have repeatedly made this mistake.  When you are not getting the results you want, let go and concentrate on the end results.  Very quickly opportunities will manifest for you to reach those exact end results.  Be open and take action on those even if it means sitting on the side line and watching your little girl swim on her own. 

I hope this makes sense.  I wrote this blog post because,  for the longest time and still to this day,  I tend to drop the ball on this point.  I try all kinds of things to try to do it by myself instead of asking the Universe and the source for help and then letting that help come and accept it with joy.   Remembering that I am not perfect and all-knowing will help check the ego at the door and just concentrating all my attention on what I want to accomplish with an open mind to the “how”. 

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OBSERVE THE EMOTIONS

Good day. I hope your day is going great.  Have you heard the saying “what you resist, persists?”.  I was recently listening to the book The Power of Now  by Eckhart Tolle and something that I had heard before suddenly clicked and I had an epiphany that lead to this post. 

Many times we feel like our emotions control us.  This gets disturbing when you are a student of The Law of Attraction (LOA) and realize how important your emotions are as well as how much effect  and influence these emotions have on your life. As you know our emotions directly dictate our reality, goals, and success.  I have always been asked “how do you control those negative emotions? How do you control the times when you are disappointed or angry?” Up to now, my only go to answer was to reach for slowly and incremental better feelings. Taking baby steps out of how I feel towards something that felt a little better.   I believe now I actually have a solid and workable technique of showing you how to deal with those negative emotions and any emotions for that matter that is much quicker and helpful  and can be used in conjunction with reaching for a little better feeling, thanks to this book. 

One of the things that Eckhart Tolle mentioned in his book is the concept of being an observer of our internal emotions.  If unchecked, our internal emotions will end up dictating our thoughts, and that may or may not be a good thing.  We know, by The Law of Attraction (LOA) that the vibration of our emotions will attract more opportunities to keep on feeling those emotions.  If you however, learn to just observe your emotions without judgment, and without leading to any other thoughts, the emotions will dissipate faster than trying to fight them. 

He mentions in his book a concept called the “pain body”.  If you can actually imagine a separate entity inside of you as a “pain body” he states, it becomes easier to make sense of this.  Like any entity when you try to fight it, it will rebel and defend itself.  It, like anything,  wants to live and prosper, but it can only prosper by having you be in pain emotionally so it will cling to thoughts that will bring more emotions that are painful.  It will reach for other thoughts that will feed it. 

When you just observe it without any judgment, or any thought, the pain body and those negative emotions will subside.  You cannot destroy them, just like you cannot destroy darkness. As he mentions in the book,  you can shine a light on the darkness by being the observer of the emotions.  I had heard Bob Doyle also speak about the “observer”.  It is a curious practice that I think you will really benefit from and enjoy. 

The next time you are feeling negative emotions like anger, jealousy, or even frustration,  try to just observe how you feel inside.  I tried this when I missed my exit on an off-ramp in North Carolina recently.  I was actually listening to the Power of Now so I was in tune and I tried it.  I felt at first annoyed, then I felt a little stupid. Normally I would be angry at myself specially since I was on my way to the airport, but I just kept at watching and did my best to let those “labels” go. I did not make any judgments.  It helped when I spoke the judgments out loud like, “ok I am judging this feeling and calling myself stupid, but I am just hear to watch the feeling. What is the feeling”?  Note I did not ask  “what am I feeling?”  but “what is the feeling?”   I wanted to be detached from the emotion.  I did not want to empathize with the emotion.  The process was amazingly quick.  I soon was laughing at the ridiculousness of the emotions compared to the situation. 

I found it so helpful that I thought about writing this post so that others may be able to benefit from it.  I hope it helps and makes sense.  As always please feel free to share this blog with anyone who may need it and if anything is unclear or you have comments, please be sure to put those comments on my Facebook and Twitter feed.  Until next week, to your success. 

ASK QUESTIONS AND…

Good day and I hope you are having a great day. This week, I am going to get a little metaphysical.  This Universe has such amazing principles that can guide us to success,  that when I stumble on some of them I can’t help get excited and want to share them with you.  Today’s blog is about one such method, or tool that I have recently given some extra thought and attention to. 

When I was younger and was much more involved in martial arts, it was not unusual for me to meditate 2 or 3 times a day for 15 minutes or more.  After years of meditation, I discovered that in addition to clearing my mind, I could also ask questions.  I asked questions about different things.  I would hear answers in my mind, and in my own voice.  At first I just ignored them and chalked them to “self-talk” that we all have a tendency to do. The important thing was that when I would hear these answers in the quiet and calm places, the answers were very profound and helpful. If I remained humble, I would know that there was more than just my own intuition involved.   When in turn I would attempt this question and answer session amidst the hustle and bustle of the busy life,  the answers were not so great. In fact they were mostly useless or costly. 

I have come to the conclusion that the source talks to me in the calm and quiet, when I am slowing down.  After all, loudness and chaos come from scarcity and calmness and the quiet patience come from a place of prosperity.  It makes such perfect sense from a Law of Attraction stand  (LOA)              point that it is a perfect subject for this blog.   

I want to urge you to ask questions.   Ask for what want.  Ask for guidance in regards to what you should do?  Ask for guidance and then be quiet and listen? If that is not possible, then wait for the answers when it is possible to be quiet.  The answers will come all the time.  Our mind likes to look for the answers but weather those answers are coming from our  ego, or are they part of the grand wisdom of the Source, depends on how you are receiving the answers.  Real, answers are very seldom loud, and outspoken.  They are little hints and whispers  which you will get used to recognizing  with practice.

It is so unusual for us, specially living in the West to hear the wisdom of calm and quiet answers.  We are so used to our out of this world, loud and boisterous responses.  Look for the real answers in places that may not be obvious. When you are sitting alone in traffic or are in line.  Sometimes when you are lost in your own thoughts just walking in nature.  I have even experience some profound answers when I long holds on the phone.   Instead of having your iPod, or music blasting,  or trying to multitask your way through the day, just listen.  Many times the answers will come to you at the edges of sleep just before going to sleep or before waking up. 

Get into the habit of having a pen and paper or,  your phone by your bedside so you can take notes or record your thoughts at these times.  Do not trust your memory in these instances and with such important information.  You may not be able to recall these thoughts  if you let them pass and trust that you can write them or put them into action when you reach your destination or when you wake up.  Practice recognizing these inputs from the source and make sure you are recording and using them as if you ignore them, they may slowly stop coming to you all together. 

I hope this post was helpful.  Please feel free to share this blog with anyone who may benefit from it. As always if you want to comment or something is unclear, leave me a comment on my Facebook page or on my Twitter feed. Until next week, to your success. 

MAGNIFY YOUR MANIFESTING BY…

Good day and I hope you are having a great week. Today I am going to go deep into what powers The Law of Attraction (LOA).  Many times I have eluded to this, but it is so important that I am once again going to address it in its own post.  Your feelings are the most important part of manifesting your future the way you want it to be.  You have heard me use the analogy that your thoughts may be the steering wheel of the car, but the emotions they entail is the mechanism connecting the steering wheel to the tires. 

Without your feelings, your efforts will bear fruit but,  things are just going to occur very slowly. When things happen slowly, you are more likely to give up before you see the fruits of your labor.  Visualization, and concentration are wonderful, and will get you to a more positive vibration,  but if you can control your feelings, then you are amplifying and magnifying all of your results many times over.

When things are going well, this is not a big problem.  That is how most of the population handles their life. When things are good, they feel good. When things are challenging they do not feel good.  It is changing your feelings when challenges arise that requires a mental effort.  It is very easy to say “change your state”, but it is much more difficult to do in practice if you have not given the effort and attention it requires in practice. Even so called masters blunder on this point at times.

Great speakers like Anthony Robbins, spend 10-15 minutes before addressing the audience getting their state, their emotional feelings, revved up and at a high vibration before going and teaching their positive message. This is because they know that the feeling that they put in their message is many times more important than what they are saying.

If you are in business and are creating a marketing campaign for example, it would behoove you to follow Dr. Joe Vitale’s example.  What he does is that when he writes an ad copy, he does is over and over and at each re-write he tries to amplify his positive emotions. He writes marketing campaign only  when he is feeling good. Rhonda Byrne is another great example.  When she was writing the now famous book The Secret, and all the sequels, she would sit down and develop her emotions into a positive, grateful, inspiring vibration before writing a single word on paper. 

At first it is very frustrating to fight against negativity when challenges arise.  Many of us have been conditioned to feel bad when stuff is not going our way. We may even think it is “natural”.  That is just a euphemism for “I have done it this way, my parents have done it this way, everyone I know has done it this way”.  It takes amazing amount of emotional and mental discipline to continually try to reach for that one thing that feels just a little bit better on the emotional level.  On this point though, perseverance is of up most importance.  If you want to make any noticeable change in your life, you have get a hold of this principle and make it your own. Practice it. Practice it often. It is fun. Sit down, and close your eyes and imagine how much more wonderful your life would be if you could control your emotions when challenges arise?  I don’t mean you have to ignore challenges. Not at all. On the contrary, you deal with them, but you choose to feel good.  Even if you don’t want to admit it, I am telling you that it is a fact that you have complete control over your emotions at all times. Many times, many of us do not exhibit that control, but we all know that person who is capable of this feat don’t we?  But control is power and you can be proud of yourself and happy when you can achieve it. Here are some benefits that you can be happy about.  Maybe because you can be objective. Maybe because throwing a tantrum like a child is really not going to help you anyway.  Maybe because you know deep inside you that it takes strength to control your own emotions, and that it is a character that is admired by many in business as well as personal life. 

In business and your personal life, the little bit of planning you can do by making your vibration and feelings positive before you send out the vibration of desire are worth more than many days, even months of continual visualizing in a neutral or negative state. When corresponding with people in writing or otherwise, getting yourself into a good state can be the difference between a great outcome or not. You don’t have to be a Tony Robbins on a stage addressing 30,000 people. You like I, may be addressing your child.  Imagine how much better the situation would proceed with emotional control?

I hope this makes sense, and is clear. It is by far one of the corner stones of making LOA work well for you.  Please feel free to share this, and if you have questions or comments let me know by posting them on my Facebook or Twitterfeed and I will answer them.  Until next week, to your success.