Tuesday, April 21, 2015
OBSERVE THE EMOTIONS
Good day. I hope your day is going great. Have you heard the saying “what you resist, persists?”. I was recently listening to the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and something that I had heard before suddenly clicked and I had an epiphany that lead to this post.
Many times we feel like our emotions control us. This gets disturbing when you are a student of The Law of Attraction (LOA) and realize how important your emotions are as well as how much effect and influence these emotions have on your life. As you know our emotions directly dictate our reality, goals, and success. I have always been asked “how do you control those negative emotions? How do you control the times when you are disappointed or angry?” Up to now, my only go to answer was to reach for slowly and incremental better feelings. Taking baby steps out of how I feel towards something that felt a little better. I believe now I actually have a solid and workable technique of showing you how to deal with those negative emotions and any emotions for that matter that is much quicker and helpful and can be used in conjunction with reaching for a little better feeling, thanks to this book.
One of the things that Eckhart Tolle mentioned in his book is the concept of being an observer of our internal emotions. If unchecked, our internal emotions will end up dictating our thoughts, and that may or may not be a good thing. We know, by The Law of Attraction (LOA) that the vibration of our emotions will attract more opportunities to keep on feeling those emotions. If you however, learn to just observe your emotions without judgment, and without leading to any other thoughts, the emotions will dissipate faster than trying to fight them.
He mentions in his book a concept called the “pain body”. If you can actually imagine a separate entity inside of you as a “pain body” he states, it becomes easier to make sense of this. Like any entity when you try to fight it, it will rebel and defend itself. It, like anything, wants to live and prosper, but it can only prosper by having you be in pain emotionally so it will cling to thoughts that will bring more emotions that are painful. It will reach for other thoughts that will feed it.
When you just observe it without any judgment, or any thought, the pain body and those negative emotions will subside. You cannot destroy them, just like you cannot destroy darkness. As he mentions in the book, you can shine a light on the darkness by being the observer of the emotions. I had heard Bob Doyle also speak about the “observer”. It is a curious practice that I think you will really benefit from and enjoy.
The next time you are feeling negative emotions like anger, jealousy, or even frustration, try to just observe how you feel inside. I tried this when I missed my exit on an off-ramp in North Carolina recently. I was actually listening to the Power of Now so I was in tune and I tried it. I felt at first annoyed, then I felt a little stupid. Normally I would be angry at myself specially since I was on my way to the airport, but I just kept at watching and did my best to let those “labels” go. I did not make any judgments. It helped when I spoke the judgments out loud like, “ok I am judging this feeling and calling myself stupid, but I am just hear to watch the feeling. What is the feeling”? Note I did not ask “what am I feeling?” but “what is the feeling?” I wanted to be detached from the emotion. I did not want to empathize with the emotion. The process was amazingly quick. I soon was laughing at the ridiculousness of the emotions compared to the situation.
I found it so helpful that I thought about writing this post so that others may be able to benefit from it. I hope it helps and makes sense. As always please feel free to share this blog with anyone who may need it and if anything is unclear or you have comments, please be sure to put those comments on my Facebook and Twitter feed. Until next week, to your success.