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Monday, August 30, 2010

MAKE SOMEONE'S DAY

Good day to all,
This post is about the little things that make a big difference. As I was sitting in the airport in San Diego waiting for a delayed flight, I noticed some commotion on the other gates. This must not have been a good day for American Flights out of San Diego. For one reason or another the flight attendants were not on time and the flight had to be changed or something. That is not the important point. When an understandably irritated passenger tracked a gate agent down and asked if she knew the flight attendants were late why didn't they announce and change flights 2 hours earlier? The agent very calmly apologized and explained some reasoning that I did not hear but it was good enough that the passenger said "its not your fault, it's American's" to which the gate agent responded "right now I am American, and I do apologize". Well that made an impact on me. I fly American almost exclusively and every year they send me these little coupons that says "applause" on it to give to employees of American who impress me. It costs me nothing but 2 seconds to take it out of my bag and hand it over. So I gave the agent this ticket and told her it is refreshing to see someone who takes ownership. What then transpired is why I wrote this post.
You should have seen the expression on the lady's face. She smiled at me from ear to ear, and said "you just made my day". Can you believe that. A simple piece of paper and a word of thanks, made her day. The thing that really surprised me is HOW GOOD IT MADE ME FEEL TO HEAR THAT. I felt so great that this lady was suddenly gone from a stressed outlook to a brief moment of joy. It was a rush for me.

I hope you can take a time to share a smile, or give a word of gratitude to someone who deserves it. Heck give it to someone who does not deserve it any way. See how it makes you feel. I will guarantee you that it will be worth your few seconds.

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Friday, August 27, 2010

WANT AND DON'T WANT

Good day all,
If I told you that I noticed some one who has been practicing the LOA get upset over some thing as trivial as dropping a piece of onion through the grill of a BBQ, what advice would you offer? In discussing this situation we realized that for as long as we could remember this was happening. The subject of my blog today admitted that loosing control over little challenges was an ongoing challenge, where as when it came to big things this person was calm and collected.  They just started noticing this issue and by definition this has been the manifestation of their previous thoughts. They are concentrating on this trying to change their reaction, however, all that attention to the subject just brings more of it into reality. So how do we go about NOT  getting upset. There in lies the problem.  Let's use Mother Teresa as an example. She was quoted as saying "I will not attend an anti-war rally but if you have a peace rally invite me". The realization lies in the fact that our concentration has to be on being calm when little mishaps occur. A statement to concentrate on could be some thing like: "I am so happy and grateful now that I am calm and in control when things becoming challenging". 
It took this blog for us to realize that the subject had this issue. Even though this person is a student of the Law of Attraction and reads on the subject and practices it daily it is so easy to laps into old habits. So through this medium, and because we were discussing the topic of next post, we came to the realization that slippage does occur. The great thing, however is that tomorrows reality is now created by influencing direct control over it as apposed to waiting for it to come about by default. 

So the moral of the story is that we find it so easy to pin point what is wrong and that becomes our focus for the solution. By giving the "don't want" the focus and energy we are manifesting more of that "don't want" because the source does not recognize words of negation. We have to concentrate on the solution and not the problem, for that is when the energy is going to be utilized for positive results.
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Wednesday, August 25, 2010

...seeds of equivalent or greater success

Good day all,
One of the greatest quotes I have ever heard is from Napoleon Hill in the book Think and Grow Rich, "With every adversity, with every heartache, there comes the seeds of equivalent or greater success". I  have had this come true in my live over and over again but still to this day when the adversity hits me in between the eyes it is so hard to concentrate on the what is the seed here?

I share this in hopes that it resonates with you and let you know that you are not alone in being overwhelmed, or afraid. In the T.V. series LOST,  Dr. Jack Shepard said "it is OK to be afraid. When I am afraid I give myself till the count of 3. I can be afraid for 3 seconds. Then I take a deep breath and move on and find a solution or confront the situation". I don't know how many times when adversity has come into my life I have spend hours or days re-living that situation over and over again in my head. That does absolutely nothing. It only makes me feel worse and as we have discussed the feelings are what resonates with the source and more and more of situations that match those feelings will keep on coming.

The key is to believe that the seeds of success are there waiting to sprout. It may take some time but it will come. Just pay attention to the opportunities that will arrive and take a lesson from the adversity and go forward. If you are too busy blaming yourself or others for the adversity you will not be open to see the opportunities for the greater success. Adversity some times is necessary to teach us a lesson we NEED to learn. Adversity at times is necessary to push us out of our comfort zone.

So the next time adversity rears its head, take 3 seconds to feel what ever it is that comes up as a knee jerk reaction. Then take a deep breath and look for the seeds of greater success.

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Monday, August 23, 2010

WHAT IFs and SCARCITY

Good day,
I wanted to put a short post today to remind us all that the Source does nothing with Scarcity. There is no lack in the universe. That is the beauty of the law of attraction. You do not see trees with only one branch or flowers having a hard time growing petals. In the manifestation process with the law of attraction you do not have to loose  for some else to win. There is plenty for every one and every thing.

This is a hard concept for many to recognize and more importantly to internalize. We live in a world of constant competition and constantly bombarded by feelings and news of lack. That is why you need to bring positive energy and positive information into you life each and every day. As soon as you realize that you are not in competition with any one else you can start creating your future the way you want it to be. Be clear about what you want and work with opportunities that will come your way to take ACTION towards your goals. Do not make your goals to beat some one else to keep up with the Jones'. Make your goals about what you want, and what makes you happy.

Your feelings are your guiding and warning systems. When you do not feel good about some thing it means that at this moment it is not in line with the ultimate good for you. The law of attraction is protective but if you ignore the warnings then you will experience the results. It is analogous to falling down one step and going back up to a cliff and trying to walk off again. The falling down the step is the law of gravity warning you that this is the way are. You step off and you fall. If you choose to ignore the feeling of "ouch I fell" then you will break some thing if you go over the cliff.

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Friday, August 20, 2010

RELATIONSHIPS CONTINUED: Dealing with Conflict

Good day. I hope you are doing fantastic.
I wanted to continue on with the use of the Law of Attraction and relationships. There are times that no matter how perfect our relationships are conflicts and disagreements arise. Those are times of intense emotional trials. As you have read intense emotions send very powerful vibrations and signals to the source. So you have to take control and make sure you treat this with actions that are beneficial to you as apposed to go about with default setting and hope for the best. Just like in investments "hope" is not a strategy.

When conflicts  come about, it is hard to think rationally. If you are annoyed with some one or feel that you are not being appreciated, or understood, it is easy to blame the other person. I am going to go through some techniques to make things better but it bears some significance to say that what ever, and whom ever is in your life at this time, is because of what you have manifested in your life by thinking and concentrating on that in the past. So if the person you are with is not what you are wanting then you have to seriously think about how this person came into your life.

I am going to go on the assumption that the person in your life IS exactly what you want and you are just going through some disagreements that can be fine tuned. Remembering that we CAN NOT change another person, we are going to have to work on our thoughts. You want to be appreciated and loved? Remember the posting on giving? What you need to do is give and concentrate on what you WANT. So in addition to giving what you want a good exercise that was in the book The Secret is writing the things that you admire and like about the other person and going over that list daily for at least 30 days. At first this seemed like a hard thing for me. I had an issue with some one I had worked with outside of my job. So since I had nothing to loose I tried listing 20 things that I felt were this persons good qualities and that I admired. The first 5 or so things came out easy but that is where things got interesting when I had to come up with things to finish my list of 20. I had to really concentrate. That feeling and concentration increased my vibration and that is when things happen. Reading the list just for the mere purpose of reading is NOT going to help. You have get into the feeling of appreciation and admiration because those are the feelings you want to attract. Well it worked and it did not take 30 days.

I don't know if it was my perception of the person or just that person changed, but I did not care. The only thing that mattered was that I got along much better with the person and there was no more conflict that caused annoyance. Oh sure we have disagreements, but it is a logical process of working it out to the benefit of all concerned.

So remember that the law of attraction brings you more of what you are concentrating on. So concentrate on what you want in your friends, relations, and people you deal with and more of that will find its way to you.
I hope this helps. Please feel free to add comments to help our readers. Thanks.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

SUCCESS IN RELATIONSHIPS

This is an interesting topic. Having always considered myself a shallow person when I was younger, I am in no position to pretend I know what makes the other sex tick. But I have made a few mistakes along the way and as always the Law of Attraction and the success principles that I have picked up from books like The Secret, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and listening to Bob Doyle, other LOA experts have really helped me when in comes to relationships. I am very blessed to have found a perfect person in my wife who understands, and supports me and has no problem telling me I am wrong when that is the case in a sensitive and respectful manner. So how does that work?

Just like every thing else that we have discussed wanting a perfect mate is too vague of a description. Are you starting to see a pattern to all this? You have to be very specific about what kind of a person you want to attract into your life. And before you ask, You CAN NOT make anyone like, or love you. That being said you CAN absolutely attract the kind of person with qualities and attributes you are looking for into your life.

So be specific and as always write down the type of person you are looking for. It is also advisable to start making a vision board, or what they may look like etc. You can put a collage of the perfect person. Be sure to include the characteristics that you admire in a mate in your written description, because the saying "beauty is only skin deep" some times rings true.

Once you have the description of who you want to be with, start putting a deadline on when you will meet them and go on visualizing being together. Taking long walks, going to the movies, having romantic dinners, just hanging out together. See what the day is like when you are doing these activities with the special some one. Feel the touch of each other. Hear their voice as they whisper sweet somethings in your ear. Look into each others eyes and feel the flutter you get in the pit of your stomach.

Do this daily and if there are resistance that exists go about resolving them. What do I mean by resistance is that when you are visualizing your experiences together if there is a voice inside that suddenly comes up and said "you do not deserve that", you need to take care of it right a way. These voices may come from past experiences or some thing some one told you when you were younger or had a negative experience. No matter where it comes from you have to resolve it. I like using the Emotional Freedom Technique on them.  You can google EFT, or emotional freedom technique or use the manual that comes as a bonus with my e-book. I have used EFT to crush the negativity many times in many cases including working out this type of thing.

If you are in a relationship, stay tuned for the next post that includes what to do when you have disagreements. 
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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

WHAT IS THE SOURCE?

Occasionally I get the question what do you mean by "The Source"? That usually follows by "are you religious?" Well to answer the last question I am spiritual. I have been truly been blessed and have a strong faith. I do not practice my religion in a traditional sense but I think as long as I live my life to the best of my ability and treat people right, I am in good company.

As for what is meant by the source, I am using the word like many authors that work with LOA so I do not alienate, or offend any one. If you are spiritual and or religious it can mean God, The Creator or the likes. If you are a scientist it means the Universal energy, if you are a naturist it can mean mother earth. In either case the concept is the same. The source is always there, always has been and always will be. It can not be created or destroyed. It is loving and protecting without judgment. It is comforting.

I hope to have as many people make use of this blog site as possible and I want to learn from as many people as possible. There is no judgment on this site. On the road to success we can all learn from each other without judgment or pre-conceived ideas.

Many books and many people I respect have told me you need to be surrounding yourself with people whose level you want to achieve. In this medium we can raise the level of our circle of friends and each one of us can benefit from this.

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Monday, August 16, 2010

YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOU

It is amazing how topics come to me now that I am concentrating on putting posts every couple of days or so. Since I am not a so called "expert" I don't mind that I laps from time to time. But I want to share with you some thing that I hope will help you as well. At the very least it will make you aware of it, and that is the main point of my blog; to help you get out of attracting by default.

So, I was dealing with some people who happen to be either late with their payment, or trying to keep on pushing back the deadlines we agreed on with a contract. Now I am a nice guy, but there comes a time where I get a bit tiered of what I envisioned as being "taken advantage of". I must also admit that I owe this realization to my wife and I am so happy and grateful that she is here to catch me when I slip and remind me of how this Law of Attraction works. So my responses to this individual started to become more and more curt and I was about to get down right hostile. Thankfully I had some other business matters that took me out of town and it allowed me time to cool down and talk with my wife over the phone because anger is a very powerful emotion that will energize the law of attraction to our detriment.

We both realized that even though I have been preaching the fact that success through the law of attraction is an individual thing, and that we all have to take responsibility for what we are bringing into our reality I was not following my own advice. I was literally concentrating on more and more conflict as my emotions started to get control of me. The more I got upset the more my thoughts were on what is wrong and not what is right.
I suddenly realized that I wanted to change the person I was dealing with instead of creating my own reality. That is a major No, No.

The Law of Attraction does not work on other people. No matter how bad you want it to there is no way that you know what is best for some one else. It a universal certainty that we can ONLY CREATE OUR OWN REALITY.

So I am stopping and taking a deep breath. I am going to go through a few rounds of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). When I am calm I will be nice and visualize what I want the end result to be and then will contact the person I am dealing with and trust that what ever is happening will be to both of our best interests. This is not a Pollyanna, happy go lucky frame of mind. It is taking control of my own reality the way I want it. A few years ago if I was reading this blog I would have laughed and said "yeah right". If that is the impression you are getting, it is fine because I can not make other people's reality. The comforting thought is that this stuff works for me. Every thing that has happened in my life many of which  I have shared in my e-book "How to succeed after High School" I have made work using theses principles so I know they work for me. But I had to be ready to receive the information when it came to me. If this makes sense to you then you are ready. If it does not, it  is OK. It is a start to getting you thinking, and more and more of this information will come to you and my hope is that you will also be able to gain some benefit from this even if it is a nice smile or laughter as you read this page.
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Friday, August 13, 2010

GIVE IN ORDER TO RECEIVE

Good day,
Today I wanted to share with you a simple principle that helps you get what ever you want and it is so simple that it escaped  me until very recently. When I was just graduating from school and taking any job to pay the rent and living with too little money at the end of the month, I remember telling myself "I will give to charity and causes when I am rich". I would say this with a complete and pure joy in my heart really wanting to help but THINKING that I have to wait to HAVE before I could give.
A few years back I read some where, I believe in was in a book called As a Man Thinketh, that you get what you put into it. At first it was a bit confusing but when the author put the concept in terms of working out it made perfect sense. You don't see people going into the gym and saying "I am in the gym I think I will try to bench press my car's weight". You have to give in order to receive. You have to put the effort into working out and by giving force against resistance you built the strength that allows you get stronger and give more force against bigger and bigger resistance and if you do it long enough you may actually be able to bench press your cars weight if that is what you want. But without giving you will never get stronger. You can stay and look at the weights until the cows come home but nothing will happen.
So Success in any thing also follows this principle.  You have to GIVE of what you want. This principle follow the principle of GRATITUDE. If you desire money give money away. It does not have to be exorbitant   amounts. Give what you can. I started by giving away the change in my pocket. There is a eastern saying "give and it will come back to you a thousand fold". Well it truly is the case.
If you want love, give it and it will come to you. It you want help to succeed, give help to those who need your wisdom and it will come to you.
Remember the movie "Pay it Forward". Lets try to built a world like that.
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Wednesday, August 11, 2010

AMAZING THING HAPPENED

Good day all,
I wanted to share with you an amazing thing that even surprised me a few days back. From time to time I want to prove to myself that this Law of Attraction thing works. Not really a test but just to re-affirm in my own mind that this is working and keep my belief strong.
On a Tuesday when I was flying out to go and visit some customers it occurred to me to try to manifest a set amount of money, because I had had a comment on my blog on how exactly the law of attraction worked in regards to success. 
So since I was sitting in the plane I did not go through the 6 steps outlined in my e-book on setting goals, I just took a few deep breaths and concentrated on the exact amount of money I wanted by that Friday. I saw the amount of money in my bank account. I felt the exhilaration of actually having it NOW. I felt the joy that this keeps on working over and over. Then I let it go and went about my business.
By Friday morning nothing had happened. I was starting to get a bit nervous. All kinds of justifications started coming into my head.
I immediately recognized them for what they were. Due to the fact that I am aware of how the Law of Attraction works I refused to be affected by default. So I sat down and went through a few rounds of Emotional Freedom Technique as illustrated in the EFT manual that is a free bonus with my e-book.
After a few rounds of doing the emotional freedom technique I felt much better and went about my day. At around 10:00pm I had this really strong worrisome thought.
I suddenly realized that a month before when my tenants left, I had sent their deposit check back but in the amount that was 2 times their security deposit. I had sent their 1st month rent back as well. It was out of the blue. I could not believe I had done that. I went to my paperwork and did the calculations again and looked at the receipt of the check I had sent them and sure enough I had double paid them.
I immediately contact them and asked for the amount back.
That amount was a little bit MORE than what I had visualized receiving. At first I was saying well does that count? My wife happened to remind me that here it is. You asked for it and it came. She is right. By all means I had completely forgotten about the mistake so I gave thanks and was amazed how nicely the LOA protects me as well.
Once again it is proven to me that this stuff works. It works every time as long as it is in my best interest and I am not violating anyone rights.
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Monday, August 9, 2010

STEP BY STEP USE OF LOA AND SUCCESS DEFINED

Good day. I have had some questions about what I mean by success and how to use the Law of Attraction to achieve success. So I wanted to put a short post to address both of those comments.
When I talk about success, I mean accomplishment of a set specific goal. That goal can be as vague as having a generally good day, or as specific as I want to have $100 by the end of the day. I used the example of getting a parking space in a crowded mall in previous postings. So that in itself indicates that we need to have specific goals in our lives. How specific? Let me try to answer that with a question that I think will clarify it.

Let say you are a parent of a child that wants a toy car. You run to the store and get a red car. When you get home he tells you he wanted a blue car. You run out to the store again and get a blue car. When you get back home he tells you he wanted a blue BMW. You run back and get a blue BMW, 4 door. When you get back he tells you he wanted a 2 door. Do you see the waste of energy in this process? Law of Attraction is also the same way. If you are general your  manifestation will not take form because the universe waits until you know what you want before it comes into physical form. There is no scarcity in any thing the universe does. Every thing is done with ease. You don't see trees with only one branch or flowers with only one leaf. So it when you are not clear on what you want nothing will manifest. This is efficiency of the universe as well as a protective mechanism for you.

So lets say you get clear on what you want. The next step is to concentrate and visualize exactly what you want. Again I point out here you want to concentrate on what you WANT and not what you want to avoid. The Law of Attraction does not recognize words of negation like "don't, or not". So if you are concentrating on "not being late" the LOA sees you concentrating  being late.
Visualize what you want in all its clarity. Use as many of your senses as you can and see yourself in the present actually having what you want and achieving the goal you wanted. Feel the feelings and have the gratitude of accomplishing the task and then let the universe bring to you opportunities to take ACTION on to reach your goal.
That's it. Simple in concept but takes some practice. I have detailed instruction in my e-book on how to set the goals and achieve them. It works, and it works all the time.
Hope this helps.
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Friday, August 6, 2010

USING THE LAW OF ATTRACTON (Continued)

Ok, good day,
By now you should be grasping the idea of what the Law of Attraction is, and step by step start using it. If you have not tried using it yet I urge you to try with some thing small. As I mentioned I tried to test the theory by visualizing a parking spot at the mall. You want to get into the feeling of having the exact parking spot you want next to the store you want to go to. See the day, and feel the nice sun on your face. See the back of your hand as you are driving your car and see the empty spot. Feel how you have butterflies in you stomach as you feel the great joy of getting the spot. See yourself pulling into the space and hear yourself saying "thank you" for the parking spot.
The LOA works great with setting goals. As far as goal setting goes I have tried many different techniques. The most important is to actually write down your goals. There are many books that tell you how to do them and my favorite all time book on the subject is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. The book was written almost half a century ago but the principals in it hold true to day as they did then.
If you want to know how I used and had success with that book and many others in setting and achieving my own goals and utilizing the law of attraction, you can order my e-book "How to Succeed After High School; A Real World Lesson" for $1.99 and learn exactly what I have done over the past 3 years and I share many of the mistakes I have made over the 12 years after graduating from UCLA. The link is on top of the page.


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Wednesday, August 4, 2010

How to Super Charge your manifestation

Good day,
so in the last post we started to use the LOA to manifest. One of the greatest way to supercharge your visualization and the process of manifestation is GRATITUDE. Bob Proctor mentions this in almost every thing that I have read or listen to.
I am reading a book called Beyond Positive Thinking by Dr. Robert Anthony right now. He notes that we mistakenly live by continuously solving problems. Man did that hit home with me. He says that the process should be and I quote "BEING--DOING--HAVING" not the other way around. Some where from the time we start to grow out of imagining we get into the mind said that we have to DO, THEN HAVE, THEN BE HAPPY.
The big part of LOA is that you have to be grateful for what you have right now in this moment. If you understood the last post it should click for you right now and there should be an "A HA " moment. Is it there?
If not don't worry. It took me a while to get it as well.
When you are grateful for what you have, what are you concentrating on?
Remember what ever we concentrate on with emotions we create in our lives. So you are concentrating on being grateful. So the Law of Attraction will bring you more of what you can be grateful about. That may be success, new things, people we love, opportunities. Do you see where this all goes.
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Monday, August 2, 2010

USING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

Good day, I hope you are having an awesome day. I want to pick up on the last post and go more into how to use the LOA to get what you want. In my second post I mentioned you have to get into the feeling of having it now. That is the hardest and most important part of the law of attraction. To create what you want you have to start by thinking of what you want. You have to be specific. You have to visualize in the present moment and you have to visualize what you DO WANT.
Let me emphasize that you have to visualize what you want. So if you want to concentrate on getting a cup of coffee for example, you can not have a goal of "I don't want to be thirsty". If you want to be wealthy you can not set a goal and visualization that "I don't want to have debt". Take a look at those 2 statements and see if you can see what you are concentrating on?
You are concentrating on THIRST, and DEBT. The source does not recognize words of negation. If you say "I don't want to be late" you are concentrating on being late. So when you are visualizing a cup of coffee concentrate on how that hot cup of coffee feels in your hand right now. Can you smell it. Can you see the steam coming off the cup? One of the suggestions that is given in The Secret about visualizing is that make it dynamic and full of motions. It is easier to visualize when you have things moving. Do not look at yourself as a third person. See it through your eyes. Look at the back of your hand and imagine it holding the cup of coffee.
You also want to use as many of your senses as you can.
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 The MIND MOVIE team has a great interview with John Assaraf who explains this beautifully, and I don't get a single cent from recommending them so you know it is good stuff. Take a look.

MIND MOVIE INTERVIEW WITH JOHN ASSARAF