Good day and I hope you are having a great week. This week I
am using some teachings I learned from a course by Jeff Reinke in his classes
on “Men’s Skills” and applying them to the Law of Attraction to discover
certain things that hold us back from achieving success. When I refer to
success it is not just a material wealth, but whatever that word means to you. The
goal of this post is to give you more tools to be able to recognize any limiting
believe or hidden resistances that are preventing you from achieving your full
potential with the Law of Attraction or anything else. Let’s begin.
Like it or not what we learn and are exposed to as children
will affect us in our lives long after we have grown up, become professionals,
have built businesses, become parents, and gone on with our lives. For many
people, myself included, the red flags are so well hidden that we may not be
aware of them. These red flags are perhaps cultural, or familial in
nature. The way we were treated, as children, the way we saw our elders deal
with challenges ARE ingrained in our subconscious. We can
either ignore them, or understand them and learn from them as well as prevent
them from hindering our growth.
The most visible sign that you are limited in some way is
when you react to something automatically. Let me say that again. You need to
pay attention to any situation that brings out an automatic response from
you. Let me clarify this by an
example. Having been born in the middle
east, I was familiar with different marriage rituals of the region. I had heard
of cast systems, and arranged marriages, and social status etc. Being educated and raised in the United
States for most of my childhood, by parents who were also educated in the west,
this was not an issue in my family. When in medical school, I met other
students that were from the middle east. Some were born in the States but their family
ties to the region were very strong.
Strong family pressures on “who to marry” significantly affected their
relationships with the opposite sex. I
am not making any judgments as to positive or negative effect, but seeing it as
an outsider, and comparing it to my non-middle eastern friends, I could see
major differences. It does not even have
to be a middle eastern tradition. The
way people who are raised in the South treat relationships is significantly
different than someone raised in New York City or Los Angeles.
Another example is when the emotion of anger suddenly erupts. Rational individuals suddenly express
theatrics that are uncontrollable, and completely out of character. Have you ever lost control and become angry
over something that in hindsight completely bypassed your
rational mind? Jeff Reinke calls this Amygdala Hijack. Without going too much into detail, sometimes
we react to “triggers” as Jeff calls them, that evoke a response that completely
by passes our conscious mind. In a time
of danger when our fight or flight response kicks in, this is a very useful
mechanism, but in modern times it is usually a detriment.
The way to realize this is happening is to become aware of
your emotions. There is rarely an incident that happens in a split second. The
emotions are usually build up gradually but they are so under our radar, and so
ingrained that we ignore them until the reaction is out of proportion to the stimulus. The reason goes back to our childhood, and that is where we can start the
understanding and correction.
Jeff Reinke sates that if you find yourself out of control
with one of these reactions, you need to work your way back to an incident in
your childhood that evoked that emotions. It is an intense journey that can be
done easily without a need for a therapist, but it does require a commitment and
time. You need to sit in a quiet place
and reflect on why those emotions came about and took over? Go back and see as far as you can when was
the first time you felt those emotions and usually many of our issues are
reduced to one or two underlying causes.
Many people’s anger, and frustrations are reduced to a time when they
were treated with anger, or when they felt helpless and out of control, or it
may be a situation when they felt like they had disrespected someone or were
disrespected and anger was the response.
With this background, I want to now go into how this effects
your use of The Law of Attraction (LOA) and your success. When you stretch your goals, and reach for
something outside of your comfort zones there is usually a feeling deep in your
gut and jumps up. Do NOT ignore it. That feeling comes from somewhere in your
past. The more in tune you are with what that feeling
is, the easier it will be to go back and see where you first encountered that
feeling in your life. Let us use the
example of money as it is easily related too.
If you set a goal of making $20,000 per month and your gut suddenly and
in a subtle way says “bull shit”, there is a point of resistance that you need
to uncover and deal with.
Clearing methods like EFT, and Sedona method are great, but
I believe that you need to get to the core of the matter and be aware that you
have a resistance to completely replace it.
Notice I do not say eliminate it. You need to replace behavior that is
not productive by one that is productive. When you start to go back you may
have noticed times where you heard elders say things like rich people are mean.
You may have had a bad experience with a wealthy person when you were a child
and your subconscious related wealth with a bad experience. Someone you admired or even revered may have
said or taught you that money corrupts. You may have been exposed to movies
like Wall Street, where the wealthy were villains, and that may have
made a mark on your subconscious . You
see working this back you realize that it comes down to one thing. Money equals
bad people. You don’t want to be a bad
person, so subconsciously you will sabotage any opportunity that will enable
you to be what you may consider wealthy.
So you will place a glass ceiling on your income to a point where you
are comfortable but are not what you see as being wealthy, therefore you are
not out of alignment with your core value of being nice. No amount of visualization, or affirmation
will get you past this if you do not recognize and make conscious the point of resistance.
Recognition will start the PROCESS of healing and
changing. It is a PROCESS. You did not
get here in one instance and the solution will not happen in one day
either. You need to recognize then that every
time the subject of wealth comes up you have a hiccup. You need to replace the feeling of “bull shit”
with something positive. Read about philanthropists that do good with their wealth. Study great men in history who were wealthy.
Change your attitude about wealth consciously over and over until it replaces
that subconscious attitude that wealthy people are bad. The important thing is
that now you recognize that feeling that comes up every time you set a
goal. You have brought it into the light
so it has less of a chance of sneaking up on you without you realizing it. It still may at times, but do not punish
yourself. Recognize, and celebrate the fact that your recognized it. Continue to
work on it.
I hope this helps you and allows you to progress even further
in your success. Please leave me a comment on my
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Twitter feed. I would love to hear your ideas, successes, challenges, and
comments. Till next week, to your
success.
